In society today I am sure we have all heard the word "Equality" whether on the news or just a conversation.

What is Equality?

Equality is said to be the state of being equal, especially in status rights or opportunities. Both genders have witnessed gender inequality and our society fails to see this because they only show you what they want you to see.

In the media today, when you hear "Equality" your mind automatically goes to women but it's not meant to be that way, I am not saying that women don't deserve "Equality" I think they should be given the same opportunities that men have without being forced into it, Most women don't want a job but society keeps on bashing at them and making them feel less and they end up with jobs that they either dislike or paying them little to nothing. In the past, women were content with being housewives because most jobs in the past were dangerous and survival rates were low, a person could live to 35 and be considered old or blessed. In the early stages of humanity, when a woman dies that signified the end of reproduction the same goes for men but since the beginning men have been giving the role of "Protection and Provision" men and women both are the solid foundation of society but we seem to always be fighting one another over authority and power instead of being united.

Based on statistics in the year 2019 alone, the rate of suicide was highest among men than women, when statistics like this are shown little to nothing is done to reduce it! why? because they are men!!!! In society today, Men are not seen as humans but as disposable items.

In movies, there are generally two types of men:

The Sex-Obsessed Man and The Financially-Successful almost Impossible man destroy what Manhood truly means, Boys and Men are forced to either be financially successful or they can't call themselves Men. There are several ways to portray men, Men can be complex and caring fathers, warriors, and nurturing fathers. All we see on media are men that run away from responsibilities and these are the examples that the media are giving to Boys and Men all over the world and it needs to be changed so we have good role models. 

Sexism

From the beginning, We have all heard of Adam and how he was cursed to till the ground all the days of his life. Sexism/Racism comes directly from men being told their only roles are to "Protect and Provide" this leaves them with a constant void because they are disposable, " A man is not a man until he is financially successful" I have heard this so many times from people and this is called stereotyping and it greatly affects our society, In today's society women are looking to change why can't Men. Sexism is directly related to "Women are less than Men" though for a long time men have always been protected by going to war, doing dangerous jobs like Mining, Construction so many Men have died doing jobs like this, and its sad they are not giving safety like normal humans. The "Man Box" as they call it is when there is only one right way to be a man while stigmatizing or marginalizing others who are different from this idealized man.

Disposability of Men and Boys

Throughout history, men are always the ones to be put in a dangerous position, they are recruited to fight wars, first to enter a burning building and last to exit a burning building. This is because men follow the rules giving to them since birth "Protect and Provide" a man always tries to protect what he loves, when a man loves a woman he will always protect her when a father loves his children he will always protect them from harm. "Is there any man that needs a reason to protect his children" Every year thousands of men die in their various jobs but nothing is done about this, Boys are invisible in media even though they suffer from trafficking also and Men are forced into cheap manual labor, men are always disregarded and put in the shadows of society but they also suffer even though they don't talk, In a marriage, a man is considered disposable and when he or she fails to provide or support the family, this leads to a divorce causing the man to lose all he has is this right? Is this the equality we are pushing for?

The other day, I was watching a story on how a man raised his daughter alone because the mom abandons her, the mother later comes back after 5 or 6 years and claims that he pays her child support for the child they bought have, the sad fact is the court-approved of this and the man is left with debt and cannot provide for his daughter anymore.

Men and Boys are invisible when it comes to sexual assault, Yes Women rape to why do you think there are women in prison for rape!! there are thousands of boys out there that are being forced into sex work and are praying they are saved, Men are sometimes told "Didn't you enjoy it" hearing this makes me so angry, no one enjoys such a despicable act, there are little or no organizations to help men/boys in the society, Shelters are never built for men because society believes that men don't have problems or that men will never be victims of domestic violence and this is what leads to a lot of crime in society.

Conclusion

I believe that if we can learn to teach boys that their roles aren't only to protect and provide but instead to be their best self we won't even need to be worrying about gender violence. Most boys are neglected in childhood because society teaches us that men should be alone and provide for themselves, throughout a man's life there is a possibility he may never receive help from anybody and there is a possibility he will die alone.

"Equality" as I stated before is the state of being equal but are we truly equal, are both genders treating each other as equals or like rivals, the media seems to be carrying only one side of the story and this might lead to the destruction of our society.