vities and interests that you and your crush both like. Talk with your crush about something they like. Identify the interests that match your own, and spend more time on those activities.[1]

Consider asking things like, "What's it like being on the soccer team? I used to play soccer" or, "I noticed that you like to draw. What kind of things do you sketch? I like to sketch in a journal sometimes."

Do more of the activities that you both enjoy. Just make sure that not all your time is spent on this.

Look at the ways that you and your crush are different. Sometimes getting to know someone involves seeing how common interests may be different in approach.

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Start off as friends. Though your romantic feelings may be hard to control, it's important to get to know the 'real' person that is your crush. Wouldn't you want that person you like to be someone you also want to be friends with? [2]

If you don't feel like your crush would be a good friend, or that your interests are too different, think about what that may mean. Would you want to be close to someone who you don't think would be a good friend?

Allow your friendship to lead into romance, rather than the other way around. Don't rush into something. Try to find ways to keep your mind off your crush, and focus on how to be their friend first.

Consider asking your crush and his or her friends to hang out with you and your friends for a weekend event. Keep the interactions casual at first, rather than trying to find out if he or she likes you.

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Be a good listener. Make an effort to listen to what your crush likes. Be positive and smile. Give signs that you are listening to what he or she is saying. Don't be distracted by other things. Don't avert your eyes due to shyness.

When you actually listen to what your crush is saying, and not just think about the way he or she looks, you'll be able to really know what the person is like.

After listening, consider responding with, "That's really interesting" or "Wow, that's cool."

Ask follow-up questions. When you are actively listening to your crush, you're paying attention to what he or she is saying. Ask for details about what they are talking about, or clarification if something sounds confusing.