Most of us think that if a child grew up with wrong behavior or attitude his/her parents got lack of guidance in them. Actually, there is a part of me that agree with that and the other part is not.
I'll explain it to you why.
Day by day as your child grows, you always took time to talk to him/her right? That's one way to get your child's attention. Simple preaching and guidance eventhough they don't quite understand what you're saying right? But to tell honestly, it's still not enough . Being attentive to what you're doing or saying to them is a great example.
Have you ever thought of that too? If not, then continue reading this.
Yes, I'm at the stage of wondering how to be a good mother for I'm still new with this matter. But every day as I see my child grows, I'm learning many things and applying it little by little. Now I want it to share with you today.
First and foremost if your child did something wrong or it's not good for you, do not hit or shout at them. I know you will disagree with this but this is all I can say, they will not know that they're wrong if you hit or shout to them. Talk to them carefully and remind them that what they've done is wrong. If the child is in younger age, you just have to imitate what they did and add a shrug of your head, so they will know that it's wrong or not appropriate.
Second, avoid arguing or fighting in front of your child. Since you are their parent, what will you say or do is what they think is right. If you can't avoid arguing don't let them hear you shouting or raising your voice. If possible you must stay away from your enemy and cool down your temper. In that way your child will think that if there is any misunderstanding or conflict they shouldn't have to fight back.
You always have to think about the things you do or say because you will be the first teacher or a good example for your child. You will always be their role model.