A woman's singleness is not a catastrophe. Marital Status: Happily without half an orange

Happily without a better half, it is an article in which I want to reflect the false paradigms, especially in Latin America, that a single woman at 30 years of age is something catastrophic and even more so if at that age she has not had children

¿What happens if you don't want to get married? ¿If you don't want or can't have children? ¿If your prince charming turns out to be a green prince? or are your plans simply very different from forming a marriage? These are some of the questions that many women ask themselves today, questioning the model of happiness that they have sold us since childhood in fairy tales.

In this article, I want to share with you my personal experience and my reflections on how to break stereotypes and live the life you choose, no matter what others say.

The fairy tale of perfect love: Happily married 

Since we are children, we are bombarded with fairy tales, movies and series that paint love as a dream of Prince Charming, a wedding, children and eternal happiness. This is our first sentimental fantasy, and for many women it becomes a goal to achieve: start a family and be happy forever. These stories make us believe in unreal things about love and half-oranges, and what is worse, they make us think that a single woman is unhappy, unhappy, incomplete and needs an urgent husband to save her from that abyss of life. singleness. With this article I do not want to say that love and family are not important, on the contrary, I want to highlight that beyond "They were happy forever" there is a world full of opportunities for you, because everything has its perfect moment.

Unfortunately, marriage in some cultures is classified as an essential and primordial objective and has more weight than success and professional merit.  Despite living in a time of globalization and modernity, a 29-year-old woman who is single is seen as something catastrophic, creating erroneous prejudices about being single, and then when family and social pressure often begins, with paradigms and absurd questions like:

If you reach 30 without children, you are too old to have them

¿When are you getting married?

If you don't have children you will be left alone when you are old

Being single at 30 is being incomplete in life

You are a spinster

If you don't get married, imagine your future: Alone, without a husband, without children, bitter

And so they make you believe that your life is a horror movie, just because you don't have a partner. There is no written rule or law of life that says you must marry and have children before age 30.

The fantasy of a movie love

In movies, series or novels, they do not show women as protagonists of their own lives, without depending on a prince or romantic love. They rarely create a film where the protagonist or princess is president of a country, a professional writer, a successful athlete, astronaut or simply a happy woman performing a job that she is passionate about, the female figure is always in search of love or her better half.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to start a family, but there is also nothing wrong with wanting to be happy with yourself, with your dreams, goals and passions. Being single is not a curse, nor is it a misfortune, it is an option as valid as any other.

Marital status is not a decisive factor in a woman's happiness, it is just that, a marital status. Don't be influenced by prejudices or social pressures that tell you how you should live your life. To share your happiness with someone else, you first have to be happy with yourself, feel complete, satisfied, proud of who you are and what you do. Remember that you can always continue learning, growing and improving as a person.

Be happy without much story, with or without half an orange

I want to clarify that I am not a feminist, or anything like that, I just want to express that being single is not a bad thing at any age, being single is not synonymous with a woman being bad, you are not bad for being single, you are no less for not having a partner . Those who are wrong are those who criticize you and perhaps many of them suffer an unhappy marriage at home, but happy in society.

Live your life however you want, take the trip you want so much, graduate from university if that's what you want, learn a trade if it makes you happy, share with friends and family, enjoy being single and strengthen your self-love before you get married. Marriage is not just signing a paper where it is believed that one is the owner of the other and that this action guarantees happiness, love, fidelity and respect. No, it is much more than that, it is mutual love, it is the desire to build a future together step by step, it is having goals and plans not only for family but also for individuals.

Everything has its perfect moment in life, and when you least expect it without looking for it, your ideal love will arrive, in the meantime continue to be happy and enjoying being "Happily without a better half".

Article written in Spanish and translated in Google Translator

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