The phone that now carries our whole lives to what extent is the partner allowed to see it and do we have the right to search our children's phones?
What are the limits of privacy in marital and emotional relationships, and with children, in this age, the phone has come to carry our whole life in its smallest detail? Does the husband and wife have the right to access the phone with all the secrets of his accounts? Do we have the right to know everything about our children through their phones?
A housewife says: What imposes the limits of privacy is the nature of the relationship between the two parties, there are two parties used to share everything together and others, there is a party absent from many things that the partner does, so there is no fixed scale, the scale is the desire of one party to keep a part that the other does not want To know him at that time, his desire must be respected, and his knowledge should not be forced, the partner's desire to know everything, even the phone password or personal accounts. In my opinion, this is not his right because each of us has relationship circuits, work circle, family, friends, and all of these share their lives and secrets with us. The partner here violates their privacy and not mine, which may cause major problems for them.
How can we fix the matter on this request without loss?
The truth is that this is a natural characteristic of the desire to know everything about the partner, it is difficult to change or convince him that this is not his right, but it may happen if the other party clings to his right to his privacy and stops in front of attempts to infringe on it by the partner, he must always make it clear that He is rejected and will not accept, and with time he will be able to build borders, but after burning nerves.
As for Mr. A.M., a 45-year-old employee, he has a different opinion: What I will say is what we must do and we cannot. I think that children up to the age of (18) years should not have any privacy over their guardian, then after that the children may have their privacy after that. She planted it in them, as for the daughters, they should never have any privacy over their parents, as well as the wife, and the idea that she has a circle of acquaintances that could violate their privacy is what is required is that this disclosure does not occur in the first place, her brothers and friends should not tell their secrets through written and audio conversations on these Accounts that could be violated by any stranger once the account was stolen.
FA commented on this: Because we are societies that lack the values of freedom and respect for personal choices, most types of love are the love of possession and control, whether a woman or a man, who establish their relationships with the same concepts that they knew, and sometimes this is a kind of suspicion or extreme jealousy which is present in the man More so, by virtue of the fact that society gives authority to the man, he controls as this is reform, correction and protection, whether for his sons and daughters or his wife.
After I gathered the views, I wanted to know the opinion of the religion on that, and Dr. Aweidah Othman, Secretary of the Fatwa at Dar Al Ifta, answers
Privacy is guaranteed to both parties, of course, and a woman does not have the right to search after her husband. What women do when searching phones is forbidden according to Sharia because this is the eye of espionage “and they do not spy,” and this opens the door to the devil, and this of course is an act driven by suspicion, so you must distance yourself from suspicion. Sin, ”and if it happens that you know something without research and follow the private parts, advise and offer to talk, but if you tell him what you know with twisted espionage methods and reveal his cover. It will lead to ruin.
As for the man, he is the guardian of his children and his wife as well, and the guardian has the right to follow up, I do not say espionage, but he must be vigilant following his home and what is happening with them, sometimes a woman is very good and acts in good faith until she gets into trouble. Therefore, his duty is to follow up and protect her from such things, as well as with his children, and the mother with her children must follow them.
As for the opinion of psychology on this matter, the psychological therapist, Dr. Wafaa Shalaby, answers:
In my opinion, privacy should be for both parties. One should not spy on the other, it is possible that your eyes fall on written words that do not carry anything and you carry wrong meanings, and because this is an entrance to suspicion and there must be respect and trust without exchanging personal account passwords and preserving Their privacy guarantees respect in the relationship.
The truth is that the woman searches more than the man, because she wants to know the matter early, to be vigilant and to pick up any betrayal before it happens, so she begins the search because if the man in our society searches behind his wife, this means that he saw things that made him suspect that she is actually doing something and not as the women think, the man’s suspicion It is not socially acceptable to the wife's booth, if the wife notices any change in his day, she must wait until she finds something visible and tangible, but looking behind him will make the relationship completely ruin, and the confrontation ripens.
Inspection makes the man behave boldly, and frankness makes him calm and act more maturely. As for the guardian, I see that children have their privacy as well. All we have to do is to inculcate values, religion and principles and then make them engage in life and watch from afar, because a very smart teenager can come with another phone. By any means, he will deal with your violation of his privacy at once, and he will be able to hide anything he does, so it is best to earn him by respecting him by respecting his privacy and by strengthening your confidence in him, he will bear the responsibility.
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