It may take a person only seven seconds to make a first impression, and our words and actions have a huge impact on the first impression people make of us.
It may take a person only seven seconds to make a first impression on others. In this short period of time, a person may say a word or act, the negative consequences of which extend for seven years without the ability to correct them.
Bright Side has put together a list of the most common mistakes that cannot be overlooked, which are common among people when meeting new people.
Lying
As we all know since childhood, lying is bad and the lying rope is short, but everyone lied once, in a job interview, for example, many of us boasted of false accomplishments or maybe some facts about themselves during a date. And with this behavior we have harmed ourselves.
When you honestly talk about things that don't make you look like a perfect person, when you acknowledge your mistakes and deny knowing everything, you are elevating yourself. The person you are talking to will take you seriously and take responsibility. This will make him trust you.
Remember: relationships built on honesty are always stronger than those built on deception.
Exaggerate talking about yourself!
Even if your future depends entirely on this meeting, or you are in an interview for your dream job, or in your first meeting with your partner's parents. Never be overstressed. If you show yourself that you are very smart or cool, that person you are talking to may make your behavior interpret as insincere bragging, and the result may be their reluctance to continue talking to you. Gradually show your personality to the new people, until you feel ready to accept you for who you are.
It may take a person only seven seconds to make a first impression on others. In this short period of time, a person may say a word or act, the negative consequences of which extend for seven years without the ability to correct them.
Bright Side has put together a list of the most common mistakes that cannot be overlooked, which are common among people when meeting new people.
Talk about everything like an open book
People may seem friendly to you from the first moment you meet them, which may make you want to be as clear and honest with them as possible in return, so start by telling them your life story and sharing with them most of your very own thoughts and feelings. But beware, it is not a good idea to do this when you first get to know someone.
First, you do not know anything about the reality of these people, nor about their dreams, interests, and principles that they believe in. If you talk at length about your life without knowing anything about their life, you will see that things get a little strange.
Second, if you disclose something that should not be disclosed, they will see that you lack maturity and seriousness.
Start talking, no one can stop you!
Having pauses during a conversation with someone you just met is totally normal. Sure, silence might sound inappropriate, but it's definitely better than long, unhelpful conversations or inappropriate pranks. You will agree with me that it can be hard to stay attentive with someone who talks constantly and expects you to focus fully with their long speech. Therefore, if you feel that the level of interaction in the conversation is decreasing, wait a while and then either change the topic or leave.
Also try not to rush things. The first meeting is sufficient for limited talks. Take care not to ask for an order or make a suggestion, and if the person wants to end the meeting, do not insist that the meeting last longer than that.
Intense curiosity
Always make sure that you show your sincere interest in what the other person is saying. Ask questions and show your interest in their opinions, and be prepared to accept their responses comfortably. But most importantly: Be tactful, however fun and lively the conversation is, never turn it into an interrogation session. Don't ask too many questions, and remember that most people don't like to talk about politics, religion, money, or their personal lives with people they don't know well.
The words we say and the things we do have a powerful effect on the opinions of people around us. The same person may make different impressions of others. Therefore, our external appearances are not the only influences on this issue.