Day 23: Letter To Someone

June 6, 2022

To you who find this message is applicable:

You don't have to be heart-stoned just because you think you've been through the worst. You don't have to treat everyone cold just because you think they don't deserve your compassion. Your hurt is not an excuse for you to hurt others.

Ever since you came out from that 'depressing situation', we lost you. We were there but you confide on a different shoulder. We're friends but we felt like we are strangers to you. We lost you to a sad chapter of your life which could've been better if you let us in your circle. But we didn't mind it as we figured it might be best for you. You closed doors for us and build walls making it hard for us to reach out to you.

The years we shared were put in vain as it turned out that you didn't trust us as you chose to pour your grief to your special someone other than us. It was a painful day for us because the day you buried your mom is the same day we buried you. The old you. You got lost in the sadness and you didn't hold the grip of our hands as we reached out to you.

Instead, you confide in your special someone whom you just met two years ago. You trusted him more than us. He is more important than the years and experiences we shared.

As the days passed by, I sensed that you became envious of us. We are your friends who can still hug our moms. Let me just make it clear to you that it was not our fault. It was not anybody's fault so stop sentencing us to death just because we can still hug our moms while you can't.

Let me just make it clear to you that we mourned also during your mom's passing. We reached out to you and tried to console you as much as we can. We were there. We never stopped being available to you. You just closed your doors for us.

So, I figured it's better for us to part ways. You do you. I do me. I don't wanna be close to you anymore as you kept on guilt-tripping me about having a mom. How could you do that? Why won't you be happy for us? You think your life is miserable without your mom by your side and that you cry in agony while seeing us happy with our moms.

It is not nurturing anymore. The relationship we have will be tainted if we keep on maintaining a different personalities when we see each other. So, here is where we end. Adios friend! You are not welcome here anymore.

Go on with your life guilt-tripping other people. I believe I've had enough with that.

I just hope that you'll wake up one day and decide to stop playing victim to your emotional pain.

Indeed, we will never understand you because we haven't been in your shoe. But I believe that it is also not right to use your pain against us.

Sincerely,

Your friend.

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