Of course, we often come across talks and discussions about toxic people. Of course I will try to discuss a little about toxic people. Then, what are toxic people?
Toxic people or toxic people are those who bring bad influence in our lives. Toxic people or toxic people are not people with mental disorders, it's just that there may or may be a mental problem that is the basis for their treatment and speech.
Based on this kind of treatment we become considerate of every thing. such as feeling less confident, feeling unable to make decisions, and sometimes feeling less valuable. Unfortunately again, there are some people who are not sensitive to being under toxic people.
The characteristics of a toxic person:
Makes us feel guilty.
For example "X, I am very disappointed with my mother. Why does my mother always compare me to other people. Even though I have tried."
The toxic answer "yes, that's why you have to put in more effort, so that your mother can see you, what are you trying to do, then it's just an effort. Remember, denying your parents is disobedient, you know".
Arrange to make us look indebted to them. For example,
"Look, X, you have to listen to everything I say. I'm your only friend. In my opinion, you just follow what your mother says. You don't have anyone else who wants to listen to you besides your parents". Or " X, I was beaten by M, even though we were just dating".
The toxic answer "you love him right? He also gives you a lot of money. Never mind, just accept it than you can't buy your needs anymore".
They feel themselves to be most righteous. Although the evidence of their guilt is already there and it looks very clear.
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The toxic will run away when there is a fight. The toxic will never provide a solution. It will make us suffer for no explanation.
Inconsistent and unable to keep commitments
Alwayscreates a drama
They will be happy when people get into trouble and they will come to corner the person to get worse.
As for how to distance ourselves from toxic people:
Begin to stay away and reduce the intensity of the meeting.
Put yourself first, don't listen to their words and actions.
Support them to get professional help, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. Because generally they do not realize that they are toxic people both in their treatment and in their treatment.
That's all my article this time. How about all of you? Do you often encounter toxic people in your life? If there is, I hope it doesn't make you or your loved ones more mentally depressed by having a toxic person like that.
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A lot of toxic people around us, but I choose to embrace toxicity, they are anywhere and I believe that it will change maybe.