A true parent is one who assists his children in overcoming their personality flaws and instilling positive traits. Today's parents, on the other hand, believe that their sole responsibilities are to buy expensive clothes and foods and to pay large fees for coaching classes. They are oblivious to the fact that these items make the youngsters crave only worldly pleasures. These joys exacerbate their flaws. As a result, parents must consider if they are providing their children with a true education. It is the responsibility of parents to assist their children in imbibing positive traits and so leading a happy life.
Only happy parents can raise happy children.
Only happy parents can raise happy children. There should be good communication between parents and children in order to build excellent sanskars (subconscious impressions) on their minds. Only stress-free parents can educate their children how to live stress-free lives.
They can effortlessly communicate with their kids. Children are uninterested in conversing with stressed-out parents. They don't want to share their ideas, opinions, or issues with such parents. As a result, the parents must maintain a stress-free environment.
Parents' sources of stress
Always caught up in the past
Parents whose minds are always wandering back in time are unable to communicate with their children. Children are constantly joyful because they are able to forget about their past and live in the present. We constantly recall situations and events from the past, and we continue to bear the burden of negative past experiences. As a result, when youngsters try to communicate with us, we are unable to listen to and comprehend them. As a result, we must strive to live in the present at all times.
Negative talk and attitude
Negative remarks such as "You don't know anything" and "You are useless" are extremely harmful to children. Physical wounds can be cured, but mental wounds are more difficult to heal. As a result, when speaking with youngsters, we should always be positive in our approach and tone of voice. Our conversation should be encouraging to children.
Inability to accept our errors in front of children
Accepting our mistakes relieves mental tension. Children learn to respect us. Children learn to accept their faults honestly because they want to imitate their parents. We grow uptight when we hide our blunders. Children are acutely aware of our errors. When we don't accept our faults, they think to themselves, "If my mother and father don't accept theirs, why should I?" A subtle schism develops between the children and their parents as a result of this.
Constantly looking for flaws in the children
We will always be tense if we continually look for flaws in our children. Instead, we should endeavor to notice and acknowledge their positive characteristics. As a result, as time passes, youngsters become aware of and accept their personality flaws, and attempt to correct them. We will always be in a state of joy if we focus on our children's merits rather than finding problems with them.
Maintaining one's personal image when speaking with children
Even when talking to their children, many parents take care to maintain their image in terms of their social status. If parents feel self-satisfied about their social status, they will never be able to communicate effectively with their children. Parents are stressed in this circumstances, and youngsters ignore them. Parents should interact with their children in a natural way, putting their careers and social status aside. Only then will they be able to maintain their happiness and raise their children effectively.
Speaking with authority
Children dislike it when their parents speak authoritatively to them. Instead of speaking authoritatively, we should interact with them in a kind manner. We don't want to believe something that is told to us authoritatively. As a result, we must remember that speaking authoritatively causes stress, whereas speaking tenderly causes happiness.
Forgetting that children, too, are endowed with Divine principle.
When communicating with children, we must keep in mind that every child possesses Divine Principle. While communicating to them, remember to respect the Divine Principle within them. So, when speaking to youngsters, imagine that you are speaking to the Divine concept rather than a person. This will assist you in reducing stress and allowing you to experience joy.
Inadequate explanation
Everything must be adequately explained to children. When speaking with children, we must lower ourselves to their level; only then will they respect and listen to us. As a result, if the child is in first grade, the parent should communicate with him at that level. However, due to ego, parents are hesitant to speak to their children at their level, and as a result, youngsters do not respect or listen to them. Their minds become stressed as a result of this. Parents must realize that if they connect with their children on their level, they can reduce their stress.
There is no communication with the children.
There is no one available to listen to the children's worries. Parents are preoccupied with their jobs, whilst teachers are simply concerned with finishing their curriculum. As a result, children are confused intellectually. They lose trust and respect for their parents. Parents are upset because their children refuse to listen to them. They get together during a casual conversation. As a result, it is critical that parents set aside time each day to sit and converse casually with their children for at least 15 minutes. This will assist in reducing tension and resulting in happiness.
Expectations are high.
Children dislike it when we talk to them with expectations in mind. Because their ego is so small, they are acutely aware to vibrations of expectation. We should speak with them without any preconceived notions. Where there are no expectations, love exists. Rather of thinking that "my son will take care of me in my old age, he will maintain and enhance my reputation in society," it is better to believe that "God is always there to take care of me."