When Trust Is Broken

Trust is something people tend to give easily, but when broken- it's the hardest thing to rebuild and give back as a whole.

People viewed and defined trust differently since we all have various experiences which alter our trust opinions. For some, it is simply relying upon a friend to keep a small secret. Some say "trust me" after advising an indecisive person. Some give their trust to their employees or employers in the business to get the work done. In a classroom set-up, students rely on and trust their group mates during group activities. Some viewed trust as an assurance to meet the individual's expectations towards another person. For some, it means relying upon, depending, and being loyal to your family. We could go on and on yet it's still won't be enough to get the exact definition of trust.

Trust is the foundation for everything we do. But what do we do when it's broken? What if the advice given to you did not work the way your friend told you to? What if your friend accidentally told your secret to someone else? And most tragically, what if your parents failed you, disappointed you, and betrayed your trust in them?

And what if you are the offender? What if you're the one who broken someone's trust? What if you are the one who did not value someone else's secret and accidentally spilled it? What if you made mistakes and fail other people? What if you had been negligent of your actions?

Do we stop trusting our friends? Do we stop working if our past employer failed us? Remember, trust does not pay the bills. Do we stop relying and depending on our loved ones? Do we stop building a relationship with anyone just because someone betrayed us? If you are the offender, do they stop trusting you? Do your friends unfriend you? Would your actions and words mean nothing to them? Can we even live in a world where trust is insignificant?

We say, yes, for a while we do stop trusting them. If a friend failed you, you'll most likely be affected and won't listen and rely on her/him and vice versa if you are the offender. It will be so hard to trust that someone again and would be so hard to trust anyone again because it would feel like if someone relevant to you betrayed you, so will other peoHowev

However, it does not end there, because if that person is important to you, and if you consider your relationship worth saving, you would always try to rebuild it. But how do we do that? Since trust is fundamental, trying to restore the feeling once it is lost might seem impossible.

With that, we would like to suggest 5 ways to rebuild trust in any type of relationship. The first thing you should do is to both have the willingness to work on the relationship. You can never rebuild trust by yourself, thus, both parties involved should have the willingness and take part in repairing the broken trust. The person who broke the trust should first apologize and show that he/she can be reliable once more. While the person whose trust was violated should be willing to forgive and renewed the connection again.

Second, both parties should gauge their emotional space and extract a lesson from their experiences. Reflect on their mistakes, what caused you and the other party's pain. Have an open communication, ask them "What did they felt?" "How are they feeling now after everything that has happened." Remember to listen carefully and effectively.

The third is to create new positive experiences together. You should do something that will make you reconnect positively and will instill hope in the relationship.

Fourth, do not stop trusting people. When someone betrays your trust, we tend to question other people's intentions and question all our other relationships, be it romantic or otherwise. However, we should not narrow our minds and we should not allow ourselves to get caught in a negative spiral. Always remind yourself that the majority of people are good and want to keep your trustyo

Lastly, you need to leave the past behind you. If you want to rebuild your relationship, both parties must focus on what's ahead rather than dwelling on your past mistakes.

As George Macdonald said "To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved" and it is true since you can never be loved if you are not trusted first. To be trusted means you are a trustworthy, reliable, and dependable person. Having somebody to trust is a great feeling, so is the feeling of being trusted. If you can't name a person you know and truly trust, then I suggest find someone and build and glued your relationship with it.