Fix The Family

As It Used To Be

Families used to be close knit, with strong non-negotiable values. Boys were instilled with certain values to carry them into their journey of becoming men of value, and girls instilled with certain feminine values to prepare them also on their journey into womanhood.

Both genders are instilled with strong generic family values, so they can always recognize and acknowledge when they are deviating from the norm.

This dissemination of values from the family to the society at large translated to a healthy society. A society where everybody understood his/her roles and did their best to carry them out.

Family pride and honor was usually at stake.

With strong family values intact, navigating the society at large becomes quite a familiar journey, and in cases where you encounter problems, you always have your family/values (support system) to fall back to.

Something disrupted this cycle and adulterated the family system. Internet/industrial age/capitalism/America.

Negative Flexibility

Family roles started changing, started becoming more flexible for both parents and the children. New values with no proper foundation were born out of these changes and flexibilities.

To cope with new demands of living and earning, fathers had to work more, thus staying away from the home more, mothers were also tasked to contribute to the home income by also working, while also running the home.

The pressure to provide and also run the home becomes too tasking for the parents and the children were either forced to become adults and contribute more in taking care of themselves, or the job gets delegated to schools and nannies.

Creche bacame a thing and it blew up real quick. Toddlers below the age of 5 who are supposed to be under their mother's care 24/7 are passed on to strangers to cater to them.

Children spend the better parts of their formative years either in school or in the care of strangers (Nannies).

The best parents can give is the odd "family weekend" or family vacations.

These kids pick up so much values from everywhere else except the home, because the home has actually transformed into just a house. The home has become just a house where people just come back late at night after work, tired and worn out, sleep and then rush out again at dawn.

The rate of children growing up in this kind of family setup has increased tremendously over the years and this has left gaps in the personality shaping of the individuals in said family.

The rate at which good family values are transmitted into these kids and the society at large has as expected decreased tremendously also.

Confusion Of Gender Roles

The boy child is lost as to what his role is in the family and society, just as the female child is equally confused as to what values are required of her as a woman of virtue. Hell, virtue is hardly even a word these days.

The boy child is gradually brainwashed and convinced that it is okay to play the role of woman from time to time, and the girl child is also convinced that it is okay to play the role of a man.

Then you often hear statements like "getting in touch with your feminity", "a strong woman", "gender equality"

You hear words like sexism, sexist, feminism, misogyny way too often because there is now a battle of power between both sexes.

This is because the modern woman has lost her feminity (virtue), after having had a whiff of the male power and wants some of that power for keeps.

The modern man has lost his way (masculinity) because he got in touch with his "feminine side" and stayed too long. He seem to be in a constant battle to regain it. A battle to the death.

This whole clusterfuck is so glaring in the society today. The young generation are lashing out and acting wild, because they are confused. They haven't been given a proper manuscript, a solid blueprint on how to navigate through life. The family values have been eroded.

When these young folks, ill-prepared and less equipped go into the real world and are found wanting, they have no family/values (support system) to fall back to, so they devise means to keep up (crime and drug abuse) or the just give in, have mental breakdown and end up in institutions.

Money Mill For The Modern Society

When you think about it, this whole clusterfuck is kind of a profit machine for the society/government/powers that be.

The society's response to all of these is to build more prisons, more mental institutions, the pharmaceutical companies, more university courses that look into mental health, more psychologists, more personal development coaches.

These are the duties of the family on the micro level, ultimately delegated to the society in the macro level.

Who is benefitting from the status quo?