It controls you when you are unable to control your rage. Both for you and for others, it can get destructive. A little bit of self-awareness can go a long way, as well as deliberate focus. And when you give in to rage, you are giving away your true power.
In this post, I will share 10 tips on anger management strategies on how to regulate your temper and develop peaceful responses to challenges and difficulties, whether individuals or circumstances in your daily life, 10 ways of not quickly giving in to the feeling of anger and more deliberately taking care of your inner equilibrium, or in other words, being 'trigger-proof.'
1. Get any self-fueled satisfaction.
You will catch yourself early if you are going in the opposite direction of happiness, which in this case is towards frustration, when you come to an agreement with yourself that you take responsibility for your own happiness (that is, you are actively and consciously placing your attention , focus and time on the things that serve your emotions well). Instead of an uncontrolled reaction or habit that you unconsciously only fall into by default, the feeling of rage will now be an option for you to create. Instead of blaming the people or situations for the way you feel, you will already know that you can choose to go into rage or not. You know that you can get back to a happy, aligned state with the right emphasis, from where you are. Because how you feel is already under your control, you will not let the rage well up inside of you.
Ask yourself, before I get frustrated, am I giving up control of my own happiness?
2. Don't give in to the inner repetitive monologue.
A lot of times, our mind gets into an endless loop of assumptions and judgments when we encounter a troubling situation, which ends up clouding our clarity to make a conscious answer. When it begins to engage in excessive chatter, start making an effort to observe your mind. Try observing instead of responding. For a moment, stop and take a deep breath as you concentrate on yourself. By doing this, instead of being a prisoner of your own angry thoughts, you will become the watcher of your mind. You're not going to pay too much attention to the voice in your head talking, and as a result , the risk of giving in to frustration will become less.
Ask yourself, before I get mad, am I just making things up in my head right now?
3. Do not personally take anything.
You will have a much lighter attitude to situations because you are not linking yourself emotionally to all the events around you, and stuff won't bother you as quickly. Whenever you see the actions of other people as a representation of the energy inside them, without any relation to what you're doing, you're not going to take it personally and feel any resentment or hurt over how a person acted towards you. If their reaction or behavior is, it is essentially a product of their own views , beliefs, and thought patterns, and is entirely unrelated to who you are. Nothing sounds like a personal assault, so you can quickly distance yourself from the situation and feel a sense of empathy or sympathy about how an individual has turned out.
It has nothing to do with what they have decided to do, and you can prefer to disengage yourself from any rage or any kind of lower energy.
Ask yourself before getting upset, is there anything here that I'm only taking personally?
4. Do not make too much of the little things.
To become anger-proof requires the commitment not to sweat the small stuff or, in other words, to retain at all times a broader image of life. You can ask yourself, in moments when you are inclined to get upset, will this thing really matter months or years from now? Will I allow this thing or person to take minutes or hours of happiness away from me, something that in the greater scheme of things is comparatively miniscule? If your response is no, then you've put a whole lot of energy in the right direction now and you've already determined it's not going to be worth the rage path.
Ask yourself, before I get crazy, am I looking at the big picture here?
5. Give respect to disagreements.
People will usually have distinct educations, environments and life histories that would produce a range of views and attitudes about ways of living and communicating with the world. And when dealing with someone or something that is different from what you've been used to, being able to identify and allow for these discrepancies and contrasting personalities can relieve a lot of stress. You will not feel the need to be angry and will become more accepting of these differences if you have the mentality of respecting the individuals of each person you encounter.
Ask yourself, before I get angry, am I just using our differences as an excuse to feel anger?
6. Release the necessity to be right.
Most angry emotions stem from the desire to be right and to prove wrong to another person or situation. And it will result in greater relaxation on your part to release this desire to focus on yourself or your point of view as you will not be attached to winning an argument and being the right one. Bear in mind that the things happening are all subjective around us. Depending on who's looking or interpreting, it may be right or wrong. When you realize that it would be fruitless to argue, and feeling good is more important to you, you will release the urge to prove your hand. You're going to walk away in peace, trusting that nothing precious can come out of going deeper into something you don't like.
Ask yourself, before you get mad, am I just trying to prove myself or my opinion, right?
7. Be unattached to any particular result.
Instead of denying what is already in front of you and arguing that it should not be the way it is, you can naturally not feel frustration or dissatisfaction for whatever happens whenever you embrace and flow with life when it presents itself at any moment. Becoming unattached to how things should specifically turn out would remove a great deal of needless demanding or pressing against something that is outside your control. Know that nothing is destroyed, and by mistake, nothing happens. And it's all a perfect match. There is no reason to be upset about an outcome as it is the ideal product of everyone involved 's co-creation. You should assume that things always turn out the way they should for the best good of all.
Ask yourself, before I get agitated, am I just making an enemy of the present moment?
8. Forgiveness exercise.
Instead of holding rage or hurt inside you, forgiving will also increase the chance of being resistant to feeling too much anger again. There wouldn't be any trapped energies of frustration that can be easily activated by outside conditions if you don't practice that kind of vibration inside you. When you hold your heart open, practice forgiveness, and release any wounds of the past that might be stuck inside, there will be less and less of a temptation to succumb to the feeling of rage. You often see the situation as an opportunity for the development of your soul through forgiveness, and see the blessing that the situation or individual is offering you.
Ask yourself, before I get angry, may I choose to forgive rather than feel angry?
9. Take self-love practice.
You will become more gentle towards yourself and others when you put self-love as your focus in any interaction. You will naturally be linked to your core values of unity, harmony, joy and affection, and will naturally shift toward harmonious responses. You will also be resistant to feedback, judgement or criticism of some sort from other people, and the need to seek affirmation or approval from them will be gone. What will matter most to you will be taking care of your own vibration and not allowing your vibration to be taken down by the feeling of frustration.
Ask yourself, before getting upset, am I choosing self-love with this response?
Uh. 10. Be present absolutely.
You will create a space between unconscious reactions and conscious reactions when you ground yourself in the present moment by taking full conscious breaths before reacting to any circumstance. The space of presence will clarify your mind as to what should be the beneficial action.
You will become more observant of the emotional energy you allow within your own body while you maintain your presence.
Ask yourself, before getting upset, am I grounded in the present moment?
I hope that you found this brief article on anger management to be very helpful and insightful for you.
Its not easy task for me control my temper is too hard