A great deal of what we do is motivated by the way we want people to see us. We find ourselves pushed into social positions that are formed by those around us' reactions or expectations. By displaying positive behavior, a child will strive to win the attention of his parents. To continue feeling a sense of belonging in their presence, a friend would go along with his peers. And a professional will strive to advance his career so that he will be viewed as a success by those who know him.
We crave acceptance. We're seeking constructive input. Some of us also want the attention and praise of the people in our midst who are important. Our personalities are formed by the significance we attach to how people interpret what we say and do. And it is for this purpose that we should carefully focus on the kind of individuals we interact with. And these people will be the individuals who we will eventually strive to please.
People are tribal by default. What this suggests is that we will generally strive to adhere to the standards of that group once we have identified with a particular group, whether it is based on political beliefs, religious views, or a common collection of interests or values. With extroverts, an outgoing person would appear to be. A community that participates in sports would be found by a health-conscious individual. And the company of traditional people is likely to be pursued by a conservative person.
There is a need to understand the kind of people around us due to the influential influence of the communities we identify with. We need to ask ourselves who are the important people in our lives, and how do our perceptions of ourselves and our actions impact their expectations?
If a teen develops an attraction for a group that does nothing but indulge in drinking sprays or some other vice, then the actions of that individual will be molded by a desire to fulfill that group's standards. This is one reason why it is dangerous to join gangs.
Now, imagine a person whose sense of belonging is only fulfilled by a group of individuals engaging in illegal activity. It will then be very simple for this individual to ultimately adhere to what that group does and to find a rationalization for doing so. News of the brutality inflicted by such groups also makes one question if such crimes can be committed by individuals. We know why now. And this is because, because their identities have become dependent on them, they find it difficult to distinguish themselves from these classes.
Therefore we must have a clear vision of who we are, what kind of individual we want to be, and what values we aspire to hold. Besides, to satisfy them, it will be prudent to seek out authentic people who will embrace our true selves and not for the things we need to do.
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It's hard to choose a random people as our partner, it can be life partner, business partner, etc. Becous no one knows about their inside