When things go wrong, it is much easier to pin the blame on someone else. Your employer may be blamed for how miserable your job is. For your failure to understand the lesson, you can blame your instructor. You can blame your failed relationship with your romantic partner. For your emotional problems, you can blame your parents. And you can also blame the government for the poverty you're going through.
When you find fault with someone it really makes you feel much better because blaming yourself opens you up to feelings of remorse, guilt, and even shame. Doing so helps you dwell on your own faults and shortcomings. And this might make it possible for feelings of worthlessness to set in.
It could very well be a defensive mechanism to blame others because it protects your ego against the pain of seeing your failures. Yet it also distorts reality and hinders the potential for any positive reform to take place. It could be much easier to take responsibility for the situation you find yourself in instead of engaging in this. Doing this allows you to look for self-realization self-correction and further growth.
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