It seems to me that a deficit of self-esteem contributes to the emergence and strengthening of such perverse qualities in a person as deceit, envy, revenge, insincerity, deceit, a tendency to steal, and others. A person deprived of self-respect is always ready to condemn other people behind their backs, do them petty dirty tricks, slander, enter into conspiracies, change, betray. For a self-respecting person, in my opinion, such qualities and actions are alien.
In my opinion, a self-respecting person tends to respect other people, their opinions, judgments, interests, that is, he is characterized by such qualities as condescension and tolerance. If self-esteem becomes "excessive", then this is no longer self-respect, but something else, as mentioned above. Understanding the importance of self-respect is not enough to respect yourself. You need to be worthy of respect, first of all, in your own eyes. And for this it is necessary, first of all, to avoid dishonest acts, always tell the truth, which does not exclude, in some cases, the silence of the truth.
It is necessary, within some limits, to monitor your appearance, not to sink, but also not to attach an exaggerated importance to your appearance, which would be a manifestation of vanity. You need to respect your hobbies and interests in family life, in cases where our loved ones consider them empty fun. Also, in family life, you need to be aware of your right to a certain amount of freedom, not to turn yourself into a “tool” for other people, even if they are very close ones. Alas, it is not easy to maintain self-respect in family life, in which the wife and husband, knowing each other's shortcomings, constantly remind each other of them! A person's self-esteem is his self-esteem, self-assessment in a positive way.
When someone respects someone, he tries to show him respect, acceptance, sympathy. True, not always, you can respect a person in silence, without any special external manifestations, thank and sympathize with him in your soul. Self-esteem is acceptance of oneself, feeling of oneself as a significant and valuable person, warmth to oneself, encouragement of oneself. From my own experience, I would like to say that true self-esteem is especially good in difficult situations.
My uncle, for example, once lost a business that he had been doing for a long time. Many comrades then turned their backs on him, some forgot and did not want to communicate, he began to conflict with his yesterday's friends. But my uncle tried to maintain his dignity, no matter what people he met, no matter how they treated him. Over time, everything worked out, profit went to him again. He told me that he rethought a lot then.
I believe that self-esteem is as necessary for an individual as air. In any situation, in whatever circumstances someone finds himself, even in the most difficult, it is important for him to maintain recognition of himself. “I am a man and I deserve the best, I deserve a human attitude towards myself” - sometimes these words should be repeated to yourself as a prayer.
