There is only one passion that satisfies a person's need for unity with the world and for gaining a sense of integrity and individuality, and that is love.
Love is unity with someone outside of oneself, provided that the separation and integrity of one's self are preserved.
The first love :
The first love that a person meets his mother's love. It is this love that further affects the ability to love and be loved. She is laying the seeds of future adult love. And how much the child will feel safe and have the freedom to think and act, knowing that he will have support and understanding, depends on his ability to love. The child needs to let know that he is not part of the mother (father, or both parents), but is a separate person, but at the same time significant and beloved.
Attributes of love :
Love is not just an emotional, temporary experience, its essence is an active responsible action. It is also important to distinguish between being in love as a state and love as an action. And there is no need to divide love into conditional and unconditional since love does not require sacrifices, words, or proofs.
A loving person does not expect rewards, rewards, or appreciation. Love for someone is not just a strong feeling, it is also a decision and a promise to love. A promise is actions in which we are free and therefore we can promise. Love is not a thing that can be possessed, but a process, a kind of internal activity, a subject, which is the person himself. Even when we are in love, or when we are in love, we have nothing.
Misunderstanding between Couples :
Some people think that the main thing is to be loved, not the ability to love. And the main guideline is to evoke love, get approval, praise, material values, and in response to this, they are ready to give emotions that they perceive as love. But in this process, the main third component of a happy and lasting relationship is missing - it is their love, which both love. Happy are those couples who love not only each other but also their love.
Beauty of Love :
Love is not manipulative, does not require justification, reasons, and a specific time to start. She is patient, forgiving, and accepting.
Love will not divide a person into separate "favorite" parts of the body and get in the way of his dream, demand something, and blame someone for the fact that she died.
When we love, we show respect for another person and perceive him as he is, we wish not to distort his image with our desires. After all, being in a relationship, it is important to allow the other person to feel free. Because a loving person will not use this freedom to destroy the integrity of I, a person dear to him.
There is no eternal love ... if we do not take care of each other constantly.
