No one can hurt you But your expectations Can

It's almost 1:00 am here and I just start writing this article I don't know how but I think my night sleep switch with day sleep

I was just about to sleep but suddenly I remember I still didn't complete my day goals

Actually, I set some goals for myself to achieve them daily, and setting goals always motivate me to do everything that will help me to make my day productive

Anyways I think I am going off-topic and today my topic is all about expectations and how expectations can ruin the life of a person.

When I was in college I had a crush on my class fellow and he always talks with me and always ignores other girls when I was around her and maybe getting this much attention from someone forced to make that person my crush I always dream about him and wanna marry him. I expected that he loves me too and that's why he just stay with me but I was wrong he just wants someone who does all his assignments and other works and I am a topper in college time and that's why he choose me but when I was in 2nd year I came to know she proposed one of my friend and confess that he loves her I cried a lot at that time that how he can do this to me and when I ask that how he love 2 girls at the same time then he said I only like one girl and she is ifra and also he said I don't like you by asking me that Have I ever ask you that I love you? I said I expect that you love me because you always talk to me and ignore other girls and he said I just talk to you because you help me with assignments and other work and also you are a friend of ifra and by talking to you I can get close to her

And after this rejection, I decided to never make a boyfriend and marry a guy who is selected by my parents. Even in university a lot of guys propose to me but I never came into a relationship because I don't want to get used by someone again and I don't have the guts to bear that pain again

No one can hurt you but your expectations can

I know many of you think that expectations are compulsory and everyone needs to expect things but I think if you don't expect there is no chance of getting for example if I don't expect love from that boy I will never get hurt because I don't have any expectations of love from him and it doesn't matter for me if he loves me or not because I don't expect love. I think if a person deletes the word expectation from his life he/she will live life peacefully and happily because if someone did something to make you happy you will feel happier and say I don't even expect that you will do this In short your happiness get double but if a person doesn't do any effort to make you happy it doesn't matter for you because you didn't expect and by this, you will save yourself from hurting yourself.

I think we all need to replace the word expectation with confusion. Let me explain why I say this

When you are confused you don't know what will be going to happen and you prepare yourself for both good and bad things and this thing will lessen the risk of getting hurt

Closing Thoughts

In closing thoughts, I just wanna convey one message

Stop expected just go with the flow ups and downs are part of life don't give the key of your happiness to other

Thanks for reading (lead image created by me using canva)