Adjustment is Needed - 2

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3 years ago
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This is the second part of the last article that I've posted.

When the time that my husband encounters a major accident in Parang, Cotabato. Our big problem came, my in-laws hated me so much too. My husband got a case of reckless imprudence resulting in damage to property, physical injury and homicide. I don't what exactly the case but it sounds like that. My son was 6 months old at that time. I don't what I need to do because I am depending on my husband at that time.

As a fish car driver at that time, and his employee was a policeman. As a policeman, they want a process of the case step by step but the parents of my husband don't like that because they want to get my husband in the prison. We are so afraid of that time even if he was in the prison some people came and bring some guns just to scare or threaten my husband.

My husband got in prison for a week. His parents paid bail for 30 thousand just to get him out of the prison. At that time the case still going on, the person who was died at that time wanted a payment of 600k just for the payment of the graduating student who died in that accident. That was the rule of the Muslim people, but they are not Muslim they are Christian they adopt the attitude of the Muslim people.

Base on the explanation of the case.

Like that motorcycle got an accident.

That motorcycle has four passengers together with the driver. That motorcycle was coming from the "Sabong" the road was downhill it's hard to engine brake because they have a heavy load of fish. That motorcycle unexpectedly appeared at the crossing and the driver was drunk. The four-passenger there is one person who died. But after that, we are so happy that we won the case bit off course we paid 600k for the dead and the hospitalization of the 3 people.

When they settled the Case my husband stop at that work, he was stand by at the house taking care of the banana plantation. Every time he harvests the banana he sells it but it was not enough for us and also not enough for the needs of our 6-month-old Son.

After a month he was back as a truckman but only here in our place did they deliver a rice husk in the Holcim company because they made it as cement. But he stops after a month because he could not bear the dust of the rice husk he got cough in that work.

I have a lot of adjustments in our married life, at that time his parents kept audible every morning they start at 5 am. I always hear a lot of "Parinig" from them, I hear it during meals, during free time, sometimes we fight the way I take good care of Son. There was a time that one time the older brother of my husband tell us that we (with Myson) bring BAD LUCK in their family because the time when we arrive in their family we bring a lot of problems they said to me. I cried with that for almost one week because I am so hurt.

And also our married life experience a third party, there are times that my husband doesn't sleep early every night because he got a chat mate his classmate when he was in high school. They got a relationship in chat because they are far from each other the girl was abroad. They send each other a nude picture, they say "ILOVEYOU" with each other, they care with each other. He says happy valentines day with each other than me. There are times that he have money from selling coconut but he never bought even a diaper for his Son.

On the day of valentines day, his phone was left at the altar. He never closes the app that he use on that day, and thanks to God he never put a pin on that time. Because there are times I can't open his phone because he put a pin on it and I don't know what is his pin. That time, it was valentines day, that's the time I discovered that he has a faraway girlfriend.

I know they are far away from each other but when the time you discover that your husband playing another team is so hurt. I can't explain my feelings, I don't know what to do. I call him and confront him about why he does that to me. But you know what, what is his answer denied, he never does that to me.

After a week, her mother never stop of what she was doing to me. Her mother was regretful that they sale their land just to pay the bail of my husband to clear his name for the case. So I decided to go home, and also we have a little gap to my husband in their house of what happened. I am always stressed, every time I cried, I think about my stress and depression my Son drink it from my milk. I am so thankful that even I don't have enough food to eat in their house I still survive but I am so thin because of stress.

I only visited my in-laws if I have money to pay my fare in their house because my husband was back as a motorcycle driver bit he never gave enough money for the allowance of our Son. We separated ways for almost six months, my husband stayed in their house while my son and I stayed at my parent's house. There are times we argued with each other when I am asking him for the diaper and milk for my Son. I am asking for milk because when my Son turns one year old my breastmilk was gone because of stress. Adjustment is life. 🥺

My Son always got sick because he was not immune to always walking on the ground. When the time we are living in my always they will angry if my Son got dirty. When I stay in my parent's house they told me that it's better to immune my Son from dirty places or it's normal to get the baby dirty because it's part of their growth. At that time my Son always suffer from Amoeba, my Son was not immune to walking ang playing on the ground.

Because of shortage, I made Choco Balls, Monggo Toron and sale them to the School where my Cousins son was studying. My income for that after 4 days I bought it Lactum milk and a diaper for my Son. Because my money was not enough I walk for almost 3 kilometres from house to market just to buy the milk and diaper for my Son. There are times that my husband never give me money, and I cant owed milk in the store near us. I only boil an "AVOCADO LEAF AND PUT SOME SUGAR WITH IT" at first my Son doesn't like the taste with it but we don't have any other choice. Almost 3 nights for the adjustment of it, but the other night, my Son can drink milk because I never stop texting and argued with my husband just to give me milk for our Son.

I always cried at night and also my Son feel it because he is crying at night also. I don't have enough sleep every night. But at least we survive, because sometimes when my sister has salary and when she was doing some grocery for his Son she will buy milk and diaper for my Son also. I am so happy ang thankful for that.

To be continued😉

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Nakakalungkot naman malaman na ganun yung in laws niyo po..Keep on praying lang po palagi..

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3 years ago

Opo, palagi ka nakakarinig ng masasakit na salita

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3 years ago

Ang hirap pala pinagdaanan nio sissy, blood money tawav nila don sissy sa hinihingi nila pero alam ko sobra sobra na yon. Muslim din ako sissy at once namatay din bunso kong kapatid dahil sa kagat ng aso nila sa kapatid ko sa bakuran pa namin pero they never paid any cents . Pero ang condition mawala sila sa paningin ng tatay ko kasi di natin alam ang magiging bulong ng devil. Pero sa case ng husband mo super na yon

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3 years ago

Dahil daw kailangan bayaran namin ang gastos nila sa pagpapa.aral sa anak nila sis. Kahit mali sila sa kanilang ginawa na biglang sumulpot dahil nga may namatay need talaga magbayad. Dami ko adjuatment sa buhay salamat sa Panginoon buhay pa ako..

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3 years ago

Your such a brave woman sissy, God alwaysbprotect you and your son

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3 years ago

Oo nga po, maraming salamat po

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