A thorn only hurts its owner, no matter how much others sympathize with you and support you and stand by you, they will never feel the size of your pain, excuse others and forgive them gently
Some people blame others who do not appreciate their pain, knowing that they are going through a difficult circumstance and do not care, they forget to ask them, that they are alone, no one knows about their pain, no one cares about their matter, without you four convictions from my point of view I argue with you about them, perhaps you will give yourself a cloak Waiting for others, perhaps you will learn to live with pain and the activities of life together. Perhaps you will be satisfied with your Lord and live the policy of self-sufficiency. Perhaps you learn the message of the prophets who took upon themselves the giving and left too much of the taking.
1. You also don't feel their pain, and don't tell me you do
Every person who looks at the world from his window, focuses most of the time on meeting his needs, achieving his goals, developing himself, and when pain occurs in the way of that, the needs of sympathy and support from others emerge, and this is also a focus on meeting his needs.
So how do you feel about others? When your friend tells you that his father is sick, you may care and ask about him several times, but you may actually forget the question afterwards or interest in the matter, you may not know what it means to have to support his family alone, you may not know that he was astonished by your invitation to him to A picnic with friends, perhaps because the matter does not touch you personally while you are preoccupied with some of your circumstances and your life's difficulties.
Sometimes people do not pay attention, and often focus on what concerns them, on their challenges, on their fears, on their pain, one time I received a very tired patient in the emergency room, his family was poorly educated and did not know about the diseases their relative had, and they did not answer my questions, and it was My medical colleagues are busy, no one has devoted themselves to help in examining the situation that seemed to be deteriorating bit by bit, the atmosphere was very worrying, and in light of this one of my colleagues came to ask me about another patient who was complaining about a cold, I was really appalled how I did not notice the extent of the responsibility that was In my hands and she wanted me to go to see a person with a cold condition like him now, she started arguing with me because I did not fulfill her request, she did not feel anxious and completely focused on this patient and my anxiety that his heart would stop at any moment.
I see chronic pain as the most lack of appreciation or support, for example someone who lives with a disability, or who lost a husband, or who suffers from poverty, these are chronic pain.
2. Because a thorn only hurts its owner, and this is not a sin
A thorn embedded in you continues to hurt you daily, but it does not hurt others, and it is difficult for them to appreciate. The types of pain in this life are very many, and not all of us will experience them.Each of us will experience a share of it, and something that a person has not experienced is difficult for him to correctly estimate, if you are complaining about a type of pain that others do not appreciate, then surely there are other pains that you have not experienced and others have tried.
I remember once I went to a cancer patient support site, and I found a nice section dedicated to supporting adolescents who have a father or mother with cancer. The site’s owners gathered numbers of adolescents going through the same circumstance and worked together to publish a booklet to support adolescents around the world with the same condition, They used to collect the fears that happen to them, the thoughts that cross their minds, what is going on inside them of pain, then they wrote them and explained the ways to deal with them in this free booklet. Common in such situations.
The surrounding people who support the patient may not know that this type of pain occurs in which there is a lack of attention for a teenager, for example, and that this hurts him daily, so the pain is different, and every pain has its experience.
3. Every person has a test or pain without exception
"Let us blame you", the lam blamed the oath, and the nun nun, the heavy affirmation to increase the stress, the world is a house of affliction, and each according to his best belief in the ideal, do not expect for a moment that there is a person without affliction, without a deficiency, every person has something that hurts him, you are not alone. Some people who have been deprived of this life return to giving. Giving heals the soul more than its need to receive. We publicly follow the message of the prophets full of giving.
4. Suffice sympathy, and from those close to support, forgive kindly
In the hearts of many people prevail over goodness and compassion. No one intends not to feel your pain or not to support you in your difficult circumstances. People sympathize with your pain, your emergency circumstance, and try to help immediately. It does not skimp on words of comfort and pray for you, and reassures you when you remember after you forgot. People may repeat your agonizing words in their minds after meeting you, and analyze your issue and why you seemed sad.
People sometimes suffer from what happened to you, and they may feel upset for the rest of their day. They may remember you in the evening at the end of the day, or they may talk to you by their family, or someone who guides them on how to extend a helping hand to you. People may love to hear your story, and they may take lessons from it, and they may tell them to those around them, they may set it as an example in their speech, and cite it in their opinion. You do not pass by in their lives, you and I and they are all influenced by each other, we have compassion to some extent, and we are close to each other, and we are mutually supportive as much, so forgive kindly.