Have you ever wonder why our child have this temper tantrums ? It was like , one minute she's ok playing with their toys then the next minute they whimpering , whining and then screaming at the of their lungs just because their toys was fall . Children between 1 to 3 are specially prone to tantrums .
Though your worry that you're raising a tyrant , take heart . At this age , its unlikely your child is throwing a fit to be manipulative . More likely she's having a meltdown in response to frustrations .
(my daughter :))
Claire B. Kopp, professor of applied developmental psychology at California's Claremont Graduate University, attributes much of the problem to uneven language skills. "Toddlers are beginning to understand a lot more of the words they hear, yet their ability to produce language is so limited," she says. When your child can't express how she feels or what she wants, frustration mounts.
So how do we handle this behavior of our kids ? How do we handle their temper tantrums ? So here are the 9 tips of how we handle this tantrums , coz' i know its hard especially if we were at a public places like mall or restaurant .
If your interested pls read and understand carefully :)
How to handle a tantrum: 9TIPS
1. Don't lose your cool.-
A tantrum is not a pretty sight. In addition to kicking, screaming, and pounding the floor, your toddler's repertoire may include throwing things, hitting, and holding his breath to the point of turning blue. While this may be hard to handle, you can rest assured that even breath holding is normal behavior for a child having a tantrum.
When your child is swept up in a tantrum, he's unable to listen to reason, though he will respond – negatively – to your yelling or threatening. "I found the more I shouted at Brandon to stop, the wilder he would get," says one mother of a 2-year-old. What worked instead, she discovered, was to just sit down and be with him while he raged.
In general, staying with your child during a tantrum is a good idea. Stomping out of the room – tempting as that may be – can make him feel abandoned. The storm of emotion he's going through can be frightening to him, and he'll appreciate knowing you're nearby.
If you find yourself getting overly frustrated, some experts suggest calmly leaving the room for a few minutes and returning after your child has stopped crying. By staying calm, you'll help him calm down, too.
Some experts recommend picking up your child and holding him if it's feasible (if he's not flailing too much, for instance), saying he'll find your embrace comforting. But others say that tactic rewards negative behavior and that it's better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down.
You may find that a judiciously used time-out is a good solution too. Through trial and error, you'll learn which approach is right for your child. However you choose to handle the tantrum, consistency is key to making it work.
2.Let your child make appropriate choices-Avoid saying no to everything. To give your toddler a sense of control, let him or her make choices. "Would you like to wear your red shirt or your blue shirt?" "Would you like to eat strawberries or bananas?" "Would you like to read a book or build a tower with your blocks?"
3.Be consistent- Establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect. Stick to the routine as much as possible, including nap time and bedtime. A child's temper can become short if he or she doesn't have enough rest or quiet time.
4.Praise good behavior- Offer extra attention when your child behaves well. Give your child a hug or tell your child how proud you are when he or she shares or follows directions.
5.Avoid situations likely to trigger tantrums-Don't give your child toys that are far too advanced for him or her. If your child begs for toys or treats when you shop, steer clear of areas with these temptations. If your toddler acts up in restaurants, choose places that offer quick service.
6.Ask what’s wrong-Kids just want to be heard, and throwing a tantrum is often the best way they know how to express themselves. Taking your child seriously by asking what’s wrong and actually listening to the response can help. Hold your child and give them your full attention so they have time to explain.
7.Hold your ground. Be empathetic but firm when you talk with your child, and once you’ve given a calm explanation, don’t back down. Your child may or may not calm down right away, but they will remember that throwing a tantrum doesn’t lead to satisfactory results. Next time your child wants something, they will be less likely to throw a tantrum.
8.Take steps to prevent injury- Some children can become quite animated during a tantrum. If this occurs, remove dangerous objects from the child’s path or steer the child away from danger.
9.Help your child feel loved no matter what- Sometimes kids throw tantrums because they just want some extra love and attention. Withholding love is never a good policy when it comes to disciplining a child. No matter what, your child should know that you love them no matter what.
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