“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24 (NIV)
I was preparing to move into bed after what felt like an entirely decent day when I chose to browse my email one final time. Looking over the new e-pamphlets and markdown advancements, one specific message got my attention.
Tapping on it, my heart promptly dropped to my stomach. It related to a discussion I had with somebody before that day — somebody that I had accidentally irritated.
Pause, what? How could they get that from the discussion? Pulse rising, I quickly began composing a cautious reaction. I was going to "fix" this before the night was finished. My finger drifted over the send button, yet I dithered.
Maybe you have encountered the sort of misconception I'm alluding to. It seems like a sneak assault. You never implied any damage. You were simply approaching your day as you regularly would when it hits you like a cargo train: the call, text, voice message, email or (more awful!) in-person encounter that you annoyed somebody. Somebody's emotions were harmed, and your trustworthiness and thought processes have been addressed.
In those circumstances, I frequently want to spring into overdrive right away. I'm just half-tuning in to the next individual as I figure my safeguard.
I'm skimming over their email, previously hanging together the expressions of my reaction as my blood runs hot from my temperamental fingers to the tips of my ears.
How might I fix it immediately? Who would i be able to call to cleared up everything? Who will vouch for me?
The thing is, we don't need to right the boat right away. At times God needs us to implore before we react, tuning in to Him for direction and permitting Him to purify us and eliminate the desire to clear our names. He knows our hearts, our aims. I like to supplicate Psalm 139:23-24 when I'm enticed to answer impulsively: "Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my restless musings. Check whether there is any hostile route in me, and lead me in the way never-ending."
During the automatic minutes following a misconception, maybe creating a hurried email or rambling off cautious words can add fuel to an effectively seething fire.
God is the ideal peacemaker, ready to assist us with moving toward strife with beauty. Permit Him to mitigate those protective emotions so you can re-visitation of the circumstance with comprehension and, when suitable, compromise.
Maybe in that specific trade, you were correct. Yet, consider the possibility that you weren't. Or then again, imagine a scenario where there is no correct to the circumstance by any means.
Emotions are regularly arranged in a hazy situation. While terrible, it's alright to sit in a position of uneasiness for some time since it's the main way we will develop in compassion and comprehension.
Now and then the most ideal approach to "fix it" isn't to respond right away. What's more, consistently, the best spot to begin is to go to the Lord. He will draw solidified emotions out into the open; grasp the inconvenience of what might be found.
We are on the whole defective individuals who are going to come up short now and again. We will misunderstand things and hurt others accidentally.
Each situation is interesting, however whether you are taking five minutes, short-term, or considerably longer to supplicate over the circumstance, you make certain to react with a more clear head and better comprehension of your own heart on the off chance that you converse with the Lord first.
I'm so grateful I didn't hit the "send" button subsequent to composing that passionate, late-night reaction, and my methodology the following morning was established unequivocally all things being equal and supplication.
Our Almighty Father in heaven, it's so natural to mount my guards and need to eliminate any confusion air rapidly after a misconception. Assist me with going to You first. Search my heart. Lead me to Your Truth. Tell me the best way to move toward compromise in a devoted manner and manufacture nearer connections through open, legitimate and mindful correspondence. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
