Study before Love (Aral muna bago landi)

The title sounds cheesy, but I hope it did get your attention. Have you heard these words a lot of times? From your parents, aunties, uncles, grandma's, grandpa's and family relatives? You might not believe I have heard it many times, about hundreds or so, from different concerned people. They think once you start to love, your thinking about marriage. 😅

From my parents, mainly because I have to help them from making my younger siblings to graduate in college but it is not really a must. The youngest is turning first year college by the way.

From my aunties, because of the story they have repeated many times. My Mother has 14 siblings two of them died when they were younger, her parents cannot send them all to college, instead they send the eldest daughter to college. So there will be a sequence, once the eldest is done, she will help the next daugther, then the next sibling. But to their horror, their sister eloped with her boyfriend during her fourth year in college. Got pregnant and never finished college. In the end, her parents was dismayed and never send any of them to college but instead send them to the city to work.

From my grandma, they have said it can be a destruction to studying. Everything has the right timing to love. Focus to study and everything you wish to be will happen to the future. And literally everytime, I visit her, she always asked me If I have a boyfriend. Even now,

From other parents friend, they are concerned with grades, and of course gossips. Haha. And one my friends, told her deepest break'ups that leads them to a failing grades.

Moreover maybe this things leads me not to be involved in any romantic relationship. Or there is something deeper to it. Psychological.

I have graduated college 5 years ago and now still helping out my parents. I have so much things to do. And I think I am losing my time. Before, I think, I could get married at the age of 26, but now and 5 years from now, I think I am not still ready to be involved in such any headaches or really don't want to get into that situation. But let us see what will happen.

Best advice I could give to everyone out there that is still studying,

1. You can enjoy having romantic relationship, only if you can handle both studying and love.

2. Everything has a perfect timing. I remember my cousin who found her special someone at age 29 and is now happily married with 1 kid.

3. Isn't it awesome to wait for the right one to love? Than crying over a breakup?

4. Study first. (Aral muna bago landi) Love can wait.

5. Here is my view about romantic relationship : If it is not something serious why waste time? Lucky are those who found there love at school. But thats 1pair out of 1000 probability.

6. If anything you can add up, comment below!

I may not have experienced any of those little heartbreaks. Or received a goodmorning text's and have you eaten your breakfasts or late night talks. I am still happy from what I have become and I am happy with my virtual crushes from wattpad. 😊😊 They have set my standard so high.

How about you guys? Has anyone said these words to you? Hope I didn't bore you again! Btw see you at the comment section.

Ps. Photos are borrowed from unsplash! Thanks for reading!