We must stop controlling the lives of others

Our parents often try to control our lives. They get this authority from their own parents because that's how they grew up. But does this authority end with our own parents, or is it passed on to us? Most of the time we inherit this controlling nature and go on with our lives. Think about all those moments when you are giving advice to the people around you... You want them to listen to your advice because you believe in your heart that it is right for them. Let's be realistic, please! Who of us can know what is right for another person's life? Thinking like this, do you think we need to rein in our desire to control other people's lives?

Heather Plett defines holding space as walking with our friends through life's journey without judging them or acting in a way that affects the outcome, no matter what: I've always been there for them, but I let them walk their own path.

Leaving people alone to make decisions has many advantages not only for them, but also for you. There are some benefits to reining in your desire to control others.

You will have more energy to focus on yourself. When you stop worrying about other people's lives and trying to solve every single friend's problem, you will immediately notice a change in your life.

You may not understand the overwhelming feeling of dealing with other people's problems when you are in the thick of it, but if you leave people alone to solve their own problems, you will have much more energy to focus on yourself.

Empower yourself to listen instead of fixing things. People don't always want you to solve their problems. Sometimes they just need to talk to you and share their problems. No one likes to hear over and over again what needs to be done. Giving up control over people and spending less time solving their problems will make you a better listener.

Believe that every experience serves a good purpose, no matter what you are surrounded by, and have a strong trust that what happens to the people around us serves a good purpose.

Letting go of controlling others will strengthen your relationship with your environment. Even if you don't always tell people what to do, you should tell them that you believe you will make the best decision. Saying this will strengthen your relationship.

We can learn from observing other people We can learn from observing other people's lives and what they do. If one day we find ourselves in the same situation, if what our friend did was right, we can apply that behavior to our own lives.

If we reflect on the reasons to stop controlling other people's lives, we will find many reasons to leave people free to choose their own path...