@Mayt 9 June 2021 edited

Husbands demand respect rather than love

If ever I have a chance to write something about **respect**, it's not for children nor teenagers. It's for **wives** out there. This **topic** is requested by @noisytoothie. She wrote something about **respect**, so here's my entry. A lot of us know that **respect** can be **earned**. It's not easily gained or normally given. It's something that we should all **reaped**. Why did I choose to write for wives? I can see a lot of **disrespect happening** in **every family**. One of them occurs in **children and parents**. This is quite normal, as children today **demand** their **kingdom**. They want to be a **ruler** despite **lack of experience and knowledge**. They tried to get the **crown** that's not made for them. They want to be a **king and queen** in the entire family... As if they are the older ones. They tried to talk bad about their parents as if these persons didn't do something good for them. Well, that's a sad thing happening today.

And I know as a child you did something **terrible** for **disrespecting** your parents, too. Honestly, I am **one** of them. I admit that. I'm not a **perfect child** so yeah, it just happens. My **mouth** just speaks **sharply like a knife** when my Mom tells something that I didn't like. And ends with a **punch** **on my cheeks**. Yeah, I deserve that. How about you? Don't tell me you're too good to be true. Lol. Anyways, I said I would discuss wives but why is it I still talk about children. 😂 Sorry about that, my mind doesn't focus on the main topic. It can easily distract. 🤭 So, as I was saying... In a family, **wives** can be the **number one best example of disrespect**. Why? As we all know the **head of the family** is the **husband**. It's **God-given authority** so we can never change that. What is it means to be **head of a family**? **Head in a family** means that you're the one who's in charge of **decision-making**. You're the one who's **in control** of plans and agendas. You're the one who can give the **final decision** and say yes or no even they don't agree to it. See? That's the **power** of being a husband or father. Can a wife or children take charge of that role? No. They don't have the right to claim it. Now, what if the wife tried to take that role? She's the one manipulating the decision-making, she's the one who's demanding the obedience of everyone, she's overpowering her husband? Think of this **illustration**: `A car is normally built with one steering wheel. Why? Coz it demands only one driver and other can be just a passenger. But what will happen if the passenger wants to be a driver and took the steering wheel even though someone was using it? Surely, it will cause an accident.`

Likewise, in a family... If the wife was trying to get the role of her husband it will surely end in a **broken relationship**. It will not make you happy. Coz that's **not what God designs** when we're created. He created a wife to be **under her husband**. Not over or even equal to her husband. Here in the **Philippines**, a husband who is in control of his wife is called, ***"ander da saya"***.  In the English language, you can read that as ***"under the saya"***. It means husbands are **under his woman's dress**. It implies a husband that's been **afraid** not to follow or obey his wife's demands. I can hear that to someone who's joking about their friends when the husband seems so kind and obedient to his wife's requests. They said he's so considerate because he's under the saya. Well, it's just funny to think how a husband can easily go home in just **one call or text** from his wife. That's the power of love, I think. 🤭 But, if we see the situation... A man should not be manipulated like that. The husband needs to be respected. And the wife should be the **first good example** regarding that law. But here's a thing, what if the wife finishes **college** while the husband just ends at **high school**? Can a wife take the role of being head? **No.** What if the wife is **smarter**? She can **decide better** than his man? Can she take the position? ***Still no.*** Can you see the point? **Man is the head and wife should be his companion.** It can't be swap or change. Can the wife **give her opinion** despite not being head of the family? **Yes**, she can. This is a big help to a husband to make a **great decision** in the end. But, what if the wife's decision is not followed? Still, **support** your husband's decision. That's what respect demands. Because the husband already made a decision, it's either you agree to it or not, you should **support him**. If **women** need **love**, **men** need **respect**. It is concluded at **surveys** and **interviews** on men. They said that they would choose to **feel respected over feeling loved**. See? In a family... Wives and children need to show respect to their husbands or father. And again... Wives should be the first ones to practice that quality. Respect your husband and make him feel you're not taking over. And children will just follow. If they see how their Mom respects their Dad, they will surely show respect too without demanding them to do so. In that way, the family can maintain its **peacefulness** and **happiness**.

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