You can't push someone to easily forgive You
Good evenings dreamers!! I hope you are doing well today!
" When we force someone to forgive us, it hardens their heart even more".
They message me at the same time last night. Those two are my best friends, we've been almost 8 years being friends. We all busy on our college life so it was a little surprise that they message me saying that they will tell something to me. I thought that they are just pranking me but no, I know that they did not know how to throw such thing. They sent a screenshot of their messages and I was shocked to what I've discovered. But before that, I asked their permission to post this here and they both agree with it. Actually they also support me here though they are not writer here.
Based on what I read, they got involve in one man. Bessy have a suitor John and he pursue her for almost two years but she rejected him. After 3 months of rejection, John court Ann which is our friend also. Because of this,Bessy and Ann have a little argument about it. Bessy can't accept the fact her ex-suitor will going to court her best friend. But according to Ann she didn't mean to be interfere with them, in fact Bessy already reject John so she thought that it's really over. And now, just like what I've said, they are not in good terms because of that matter. We promise to ourselves that we didn't get involve ourselves to one man but it's really happening now to them. I can't say a thing since I don't want to hurt them. I also don' t have a right to do so since I don't know the real story. They said different story so it's hard to weigh which one is fact and who said the right thing. And sadly, they throw some words that can really hurt their feelings. I guess only love can hurt like this. Even I tried to talk to them and said that they should forgive each to other, they are firm with the answer No. And I realize something about it.
Even if want to fix some arguments between those people we love, sometimes we can't able to do that. We can't push them to just forgive and forget what really happens. Forgiveness takes time. We don't know how deep the scars the someone cause to them. We don't experience what she's been through because of that argument. So maybe, it is hard to them to forgive. And also if we force them to forgive us, it might lead to another misunderstanding because she might think that we didn't understand where they coming not to forgive us. There's another circumstances that people really wants to give forgiveness but they feel like it is not the right time. They can't still move on and deep inside they are still hurting. That's why I believe that forgiveness is a sort of process and time. You can't just say " Forgive that, it just small thing" or " Past is past, just forgive . Maybe it is small thing to you but for that person, it is a big thing that might cause her trust to be broken.
" Unless you fully understand fully how it is on that situation where you experience emotional trauma & struggles with that fear, you don't have the right to force someone to forgive. Let the time and his heart freely choose to do that".
I'm sad for what happened to my friends but I know that they will able to forgive each other. It is just not the right time. But I'm still here for them until that time came.
I guess that's all for today's article. I need to help my Auntie for my nephew's birthday tomorrow.