Late last year I attended a certain workshop in Kakamega and there is this one speaker Dr.Wafula whose joke still lingers in my mind to date.He cracked this joke in his closing remarks
He started by asking his audience:.. "who should pay family bills and take care of the children?Who is to pay school fees of children? Who should toil to provide for the home? The whole audience shouted.... "Daddy!".
Who should the child buy a car for after graduation? The women answered loudly... "mother!!!"
Who should be invited to America if a child is rich and works abroad? ... "Mother of course", roared the women in the audience.
Who should die first among the parents? "Daddy!"... all the women in the hall screamed....
Truly and sadly such is the fate of any responsible man in life
When a lady is single and has four problems and her fiancee has six problems, immediately they get married, the man's problems become ten automatically (10) as the man immediately starts to carry the family problems....
Men are made to struggle to take care of family problems,children's education, home maintenance, and virtually all provisions of life....women are only there to help you
Due to these challenges and unending struggle, men tend to wear out faster and probably die early as a result of stress...
...hence, it is important for men to ensure that they don't allow their wives to push them into unsustainable family commitments and expensive lifestyle that he knows he cannot afford or cope with in the long run...
....if you do, you run the risk of stress and continuous family unrest. Ensure you take right decisions at all times... do not kill yourself.
If you suddenly slump and die, surprisingly, life will continue...you will be shocked in your grave...mummy will even marry or have another side husband earlier than you could imagine
Most men are worn out by the time their children graduate or retiring at same period... all the struggle would have already taken serious tolls on his health and life.... and dies prematurely, leaving Mama alone to enjoy. Trust women, they quickly settle down while you are long gone...
Be sensible, never allow your wife to goad you into embarking on long term stress and burden, you can least afford.....
Take note:-
When children grow into adulthood, women tend to shift more attention to them at your expense. Infact she is seeing a replacement of you in them...
Men should take care of their health, live and eat well as you may go prematurely if you have been subjecting your life to excessive stress for too long.
It's even more terrible in marriages under storm. In Yoruba land, our mothers in fact call their male children... "My husband". (Oko mi.) So when your son grows to your height and size, with your shoes and clothes matching your son exactly.... your wife gladly starts to feel fulfilled....you know what that means? The people that will take over from you are already ready
As you get older in your marriage, be careful, and avoid creating rift in your home. Be at peace with your wife and children, if not you are endangering yourself, as you are hardly needed any longer .
Know that women wax stronger spiritually at old age..they pray more at this age while men become weaker spiritually unfortunately at this age.
Men should live a good life....... enjoy your life as you shoulder the responsibilities, eat the sweat of your labour when you are still strong....
Whether you like it or not, there is every probability that your wife will outlive you they are genetically designed so and particularly you are almost always older than her (barring accident of life) She will be around to live to complete the unfinished "assignment" and consume the balance of the "dividends of parenthood".
So while you are still agile, train your children,love your wife dearly, take care of your home, but take care of yourself too please...pause in the midst of the stress and rest and give yourself a treat as late evening of life are always unfavourable for men for many reasons highlighted above.
I pray for all responsible men out there,great fathers and wonderful husbands, that the evening of our lives will be favourable unto us by God's grace. Aameen!