Yesterday I made a post titled "Oh! Not again" that addressed the issue of being single while all your friends are married and I promised to share with us ways we can cope with being single with all our friends married.
Below are 6 ways we can comfortably deal with the pressure that comes with having married friends while remaining single.
HOW TO COPE WITH BEING SINGLE WITH ALL YOUR FRIENDS MARRIED
Don't feel Pressured:
It is normal to want to get married because all your friends are married and you are tired of being a bridesmaid the 10th time. This can make you make a decision you would regret for the rest of your life. Not all single persons are unhappy and depressed with a boring life; likewise not all happy couples are truly happy.
Marriage is not a game
It is not a race where the first to get to the finish line gets a medal. Nobody wins by getting married first. Everyone has their time. Some people are destined to get married at a very young age and some get married much later in life. Truth is when your time comes, it will surely happen. Do not measure your life with anyone's.
Enjoy your life.
Singlehood is an opportunity to have fun and explore new things. Marriage comes with its own restrictions. Think of all the amazing people you can meet. You own yourself. You do not have to be accountable to anyone or act in a certain way to please someone. Remember you won't be single forever so now is the time to make the most out of it.S
Stayfocused:
Don't go on a pity party and lose interest in life. Nothing is wrong with you. Your time hasn't just come yet. It could just be that marriage is their priority or perhaps they have the time to be at every party, night club and hangout but you are very busy with education and career progression. They are married doesn't make them better than you. Focus on making yourself better in all aspect and soon a man deserving of you will come.
Take break.
If you can't scroll through your Facebook or Instagram page without feeling sad because of an engagement picture of your friend then now is the time to take a break from social media. You must not attend all weddings. If you are not up to it, give yourself a break.
Make a plan:
If your desire is to get married then make a plan on how to achieve that. Is your behaviour the reason why you can't have a long term relationship? Is your action mirroring you as one who is desperate? Men find desperate ladies a turn off. Kill those vibes now, take a chill pill and be comfortable and love yourself.
It is better to be single than to marry the wrong person or marry for a wrong reason. Marriage is not a way of escape from financial burden or a means of relocation. It doesn't make you an adult. Marriage is forever, a long time commitment. It is work. Be kind and loving as a lady, be affectionate. Don't go for looks. Married or not, everyone has their own issues that keeps them awake at night.
At the end of the day, all you need is a change of perspective. There is no deadline to finding someone amazing.
Good dear