Not long ago, I wrote about forgiveness and the need to let people heal at their own pace. While we forgive for our own peace of mind and to free ourselves from the pain, we still need time to decide when and how without being under pressure from the people around us who expect we forget everything immediately.
Today however, let's talk about apologies.
Apologising for doing something wrong is the right thing to do. In fact, it speeds up everything. It tells the person you wronged that you're humane enough to recognise your fault. There's nothing like a sincere heartfelt apology. Never underestimate that power.
But we also need to understand that sometimes, apologises aren't enough to fix things. Saying sorry isn't always the solution. Yes, we may have done it unconsciously, and yes, they may forgive us for it. But things just might never be the same again. It creates this dent which will never be removed. It kills trust too. You watch a long time relationship go down the drain because of a silly mistake.
This isn't to say that we can do no wrong. Of course we are humans. We make mistakes, but as we get older, we begin to understand a lot of things fully. There's an emotional growth that comes with it too. We think more, we see things in a better perspective. It is believed that we should do better then. Try and avoid things that will create that situation. I do not want to talk about those who apologise in order to take advantage of people's sincerely. The manipulators. That'd make me too upset so not today.
Sometimes, we apologise without really understanding what we did wrong, then go over the same cycle of not paying attention, hence keep on hurting others. Saying sorry in this situation is dangerous because we'll come back to hurt the person again. Understanding breaks that cycle and it should be done from your end. Remember I mentioned emotional growth?
It takes less energy to be kind than to hurt.
Before you hurt someone, you need to remember that an apology does not fix everything.
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