JOINT FAMILY ~ NEWLY MARRIED COUPLES
Good day Family. Hope we all are doing great.
We all know marriage is the most sacred part of one's life. My mother used to say to me,
"WEDDING IS A GAMBLE IF YOU WIN YOU WILL RULE, AND IF LOST YOU WILL RUIN"
Now, why a gamble? Mostly when we talk about Asian families they prefer to marry their children at their own will I mean by the will of parents.
To make my point more precise lets thoughts down to Pakistan. Many of us are aware of the joint family system. (where all family members live United under the same roof).
IMPACT OF JOINT FAMILY ON NEW MARRIED COUPLES
From the two parties getting married, the most difficult part played by the person is female. She leaves her parents, family, siblings, and everyone for the only single person she is calling as her husband.
She needs love, care, and attention. Which I think isn't possible in an environment where she is having five daughter-in-law's father in law mother in law and brothers in law.
When she surrounded by fifteen people and she stands out as a 16 one there what would you expect from her?
For me, the following aftermaths can be observed from this life.
A less or no mutual understanding between the groom and bride.
They can't cheer the best moments of their life openly(even in their home)
Life restricted to a room is more than slavery.
Low self-esteem when she will be using the washroom, kitchens, corridors with a lot of families.
Familial depression, this would lead to severe mental illness and consequences.
Interference by other family members along with her husband.
She can not cook foods of her choice. Can't sleep the time she wants. She will become a robot in the hands of in-laws.
If the practices last for a longer time this may result in divorce.
RELIGIOUS PERSPECTIVE OF JOINT FAMILY SYSTEM
I belong to the Muslim community so I would like to relate it to Islam. Our Holy prophet once said,
"WOMEN ARENT FORCED TO ATTEND THEIR PARENTS IN-LAW ONLY IF SHE WANTS, SHE MUST STAY SCREENED FROM BROTHERS IN-LAW"
What does it mean? Not to be a part of a joint family in any means. Be responsible for your own life. Your parents and your wife.
Tip: This isn't any wrong message to avoid families. I just want to highlight the impacts of climate on the couples. They need space and they should be provided with.
What do you say about this aspect?
Share your precious thoughts with our community.
SPAM IS A DECEPTION!!
MUTE FROM GUARDIANS IS
REALITY!!