I came to the chamber of lawyer Barrister Ajmiri Sultana today to divorce Dr. Farhana, five years of love affair, then marriage and eleven years together then divorce my husband Dr. Raihan. Can I come in? Yes of course, come inside. Thanks. You? Yes I am Dr. Farhana. Oh, so you called last night? Yes.
Well sit down first. Now tell me how can I help you? I want to divorce my husband Dr. Raihan. What is your complaint against him? Can't I get a divorce without a complaint? Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either.
It is no longer possible for me to have a family with Raihan. Okay, you answer some of my questions. Tell me what you want to know? Does your husband abuse or beat you? No, my husband never laid a hand on me. So do your in-laws have any physical abuse or dowry issues for you?
There is no problem. Was your marriage the choice of the family? We got married in love. Does he have an affair with another girl now? No, he is not such a man. Even then, the minds of men cannot be spoken. How old is your family? This month will be six years old. How many sons and daughters do you have? The boy is five years old and the girl is not yet two years old.
Surprise! You two are married in love, you have been married for six years and you have two children, so what happened after so many years that you want to divorce your husband? Listen then. After passing HSC, I got a chance in a government medical college. That was my first acquaintance with Raihan. We were both batchmates. Both of them were very good students. There was always a competition between us as to who would do better than whom. But most of the time I was ahead of Raihan. He was very upset about this. I fell in love with two people at a time when I had to compete. We both used to help each other in our studies. College life is cut short by our smiles and joy. At the end of the MBBS course the two of us don’t have jobs in two private hospitals. After some time we got married with the consent of our two families. Our family life was going very well. In the family, I developed the same cordial relationship with the people of my in-laws as in my own family. My mother-in-law loved me very much. I never thought I was at my father-in-law's house. Six months passed well. Raihan and I often had to work at night. We were on duty at different times. For which the two of us would be very rare to be together. And my mother-in-law started talking about this first. The wife of the house stays out of the house at night and the husband stays alone, what a life! He used to say many more things then. Then slowly Raihan himself would say that he could not get close to me. He is in a lot of trouble. Then I would balance the duties with Raihan as much as possible. A few more days later we decided to have a baby. I also worked when I was conceiving. And Raihan then got a job as well as post graduation course admission in FCPS. And I was admitted to the motherhood course. Then Raihan became so busy that I didn't get to see him. The whole time of my pregnancy I have been fighting alone. I did not complain to him that Raihan was busy with his studies and hospital work. I took the balance. My mother-in-law has taken good care of me since I was a boy. Pregnancy and a few months after the pregnancy I did not work. When the boy was a little older, I joined the job again with the permission of my mother-in-law. When my son was one year old, I told Raihan that I would do FCPS too. Raihan did not support me then. Said baby together, I can't do FCPS job again. He said, "My mother's body is not going well. I have to pay attention to the family. Besides, the boy is not getting you properly. I can't give time either. My mother tells me a lot about this."
I tell him I want to take a higher degree too.
Raihan then gets angry at me "then quit the job, or leave Aryan to your mother."
My son's name is Aryan.
So I left my son at my mother's house and started working for FCPS. I have had several quarrels with Raihan and my mother-in-law about this. But I did not give up my studies or my job.
This is how it was going, suddenly one day my mother-in-law had a heart attack. All the responsibilities of the world fell on me. I used to cook in the morning and feed everyone at home and serve my mother-in-law in the hospital. I also had duty. I would leave the boy at my mother's house. Then Raihan told him to stop his course. But I said, "You're halfway there. It's not right to back down now. I can handle everything. I'll close the course instead. I'll do it again later. You focus on meeting your goals." In this way, my FCPS course was not done while fulfilling the responsibilities of the family. I was a more gifted student than Raihan. I was very happy the day Raihan finished the FCPS course and got the result. I also felt bad for myself. I really wanted to get a higher degree. However, I forgot all the hardships and tried to be happy in life only with my job, son and family.
A few days later I conceive again. And this time Raihan got a chance in Ireland to do FRCP. But I am pregnant, my mother-in-law is sick and she did not want to go. He decided not to leave the country at all. In the end I persuaded him to go to Ireland. After he left, I had a daughter. My daughter's name is Arisha. I have taken care of raising my son and daughter, taking care of my mother-in-law, running my family by working together. No matter how much trouble, no matter how hard, I never told Raihan anything. I didn't want to give him any worries. I just wanted him to return home after completing the course well. He also returned to the country after completing the FRCP course.
To be continued.
