Being Nice
For some people, I am nice but I am not somehow. A big word that is too good to be true.
Each human being has its own good and bad side. Not the literal bad person but the not so good personality. Each human being is unique and the traits each one have really differs.
What makes me write this subject? Does it have to do with me? Of course it does.
I have been working in a big company for about two decades. I met people in different walks of life and this is my first job company until now.
Being an employee is different from being a student. In school wayback then, I just disregard other students I don't feel like to talk to and don't mind. But in a workplace it is a whole lot different especially with our company that has a population of more than 20,000 employees. In my workplace, you have to adjust and adopt with about 200 more people closely in your working area. Everyday, you do not see these 200 more but just half of it since working schedule is on shifting.
There are days that some people with you have mood swings and there are urgent need at work. So how to handle it politely as it will not make you mean at work? There are days that all moods are carefree and no problem to deal with.
It will be an independence day, as I called it, when a day is too good to end well. No hassle and smoothly sailing. Because in my line work, some people react lowly and tends to be like superior in a way. When their temper goes up, they hardly hear to what should be proper to make the work gets done that day and that makes me not so nice at times.
I may smile and deal with them like family at work. I do not want them to stepback because they cannot reach me easily. Though my soft and nice side will tell them that it turns a little harder as I deal with work professionally. Because no matter how nice I am, if it means work, they will see the other side and fiercer me. I would really entitle them to see it and makes them wander at times.
How about you? Are you so nice to everyone around you? Do you let them see the not so nice of you?
As a mother of three, I tried to be so nice to my children. They always wants to be with me and find comfort on everything with me being nice. Though I let them see my eyes and read it. They know how the nice eyes of their mother will transform and fear them. Yes, at times when I am really so upset, I ask them if they want to see the dragon comes out. Hahaha, it is just an exaggerated statement but my children will react and slowly take place to be in proper. Because one time, I let them see how it feels to be mad even if I love them the most.
Loving them isn't just being soft and nice. It is pulling yourself to be nice and hard as in need.
Doesn't mean being nice is the only way to let them feel loved and important. Discipline yourself how to pull out and be hard at times because they will love you more as time flies. Actually I am loving it when I play a little harder to let them think twice on how to be in proper and nice with my way of teaching them in life. A fiercer mother but nice at heart will always makes them feel love when they cry.
Thanks for taking time with me and my original pieces of thoughts.
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