There is such a proverb: what we have, we do not keep; when we lose, we cry. It is quite about the case when a man realizes that he truly loves a woman only after losing her.
Why is this happening? What prevents him from immediately appreciating his wife and girlfriend?
There are many reasons for this. Here are some of them:
1. Men are hunters by nature. They also hunt for a woman, but when she gives up, agreeing to a relationship, she immediately ceases to interest the man. Why? “Why be interested in a woman who is already yours,” think many representatives of the stronger sex. - "The prey is caught and will not go anywhere." And if children still appear, then the man believes that the woman is attached to him forever, because who, in his opinion, needs her with children, who will covet her, and it will be difficult for her financially.
2. A man highly values his ego and believes that if a woman is with him, if she is allowed to be near him, then she will not go anywhere, because there is no such unique, extraordinary as he is. This is not a woman his prize, but he is hers, and she should be happy about this and be grateful. This create hating effects between them
3. Men often think that the other one that appeared on the horizon is much better, more interesting, more beautiful than the one next to it. While young, handsome, and if also successful, you have to try to find a better woman, and every new time is better than the one next to you. Well, what if it gets too cheap and will remain with the wrong one.
4. A man wants freedom, lack of obligations, and a woman is around - this is already an obligation. This is no longer doing “what I want” and “when I want”, but I match my needs with the needs of my partner, in this case the woman. Thus, the man comes to the conclusion that because of the woman he loses his freedom, and for this reason the man does not need her, the woman. After all, in the end, there are many women around, there will always be one who will be happy to brighten up his loneliness.
And what about the woman? A woman, when she takes care of him next to a man, surrounds him with attention. The need to love is inherent in feminine nature. And this love is different: this feeling for your man, for your own child, this is the ability to feel sorry for the elderly, and to pick up a homeless kitten, etc. And this love is manifested, first of all, in the attention and care for those who are near. It is important for a woman that her loved ones are warm, comfortable, safe and satisfying. Hence all these huge household responsibilities that she shoulders. And although, as I said, the need to love is inherent in the female nature, not all women are capable of such love. After all, the cuckoo is also a bird, but prefers not to take care of its cubs, throwing them into other nests. This is the case with women: not everyone is ready to love another person to the detriment of her freedom or to love “we” instead of her “I”.
For a man, when a loving and understanding woman is next to him, it seems that this will always be so. He ceases to appreciate his wife, girlfriend, ceases to value relationships. Allows reproaches, ridicule, sometimes outright blackmail with relationships.
A woman suffers, she loves. But everything comes to an end. Both patience and love with such an attitude of a man ends. The woman leaves. Yes, one with children in her arms leaves the man, breaks up the relationship. She flies after: “Who needs you? You are nothing without me. " Well, or something like that. But she leaves, because she just knows what she is worth. And he believes in his strength. She is hurt, bitter, disgusted, as always happens with betrayal, even if it is not treason, but only moral suppression, insult, etc. , but believe me, she has the strength to survive and survive without a man.
And here the fun begins. A woman quickly puts her life in order. Now he finds more time for his studies and hobbies. He even spends more money on his outfits, but no longer needs to spend on a man. There are fewer worries and responsibilities, which means that the woman rests more, begins to look great. Everything is OK with her.
And the man
1. A man suddenly realizes that he is left alone, even though his appearance, success, and charm are with him, but he is no longer really needed and interesting to anyone. Women for one evening, they are for one evening because they do not need long-term relationships and caring for someone, and it is disgusting to have a relationship with such a woman, because how many such men did she have for one evening. And he laments on his decision of leaving her.
2. Yes, he smiles at many women, different each time. And they smile at him, even admire him, and it happens. But is it disinterested, with love and tenderness? Or is there a blank look behind their smile?
3. Nobody waits for him from work, does not worry. Yes, he comes and all his time, he can do whatever his heart desires, but now it's not so exciting. He can wander the streets with rapture, he loves it so much, but there is really no one to share his impressions with. Friends will listen, but nothing more. They have their own lives, their own interests. They will listen and forget, and if they are pestered for a long time with such conversations, they will begin to avoid.
4. No one will give him a pill for a headache, will not sit next to him, holding his hand until this pain passes. Nobody will fry him pancakes. Yes, in a nearby cafe they are very tasty, but they are not made for him with soul and love, and no one will ask if he liked it, was it tasty!!
5. He talked with many women, but only the one who left he could open his soul without fear. She knew and loved him for who he was, and he didn't have to play in public to impress. Find a new one, the same? Good women are a piece. And how to understand that the one that you met again is worthy of trust, that it will not ridicule the hobbies and feelings of a man. That having opened his soul, he will not receive a stab in the back from a woman.
6. Ex-wife, girlfriend left and dared to be successful and happy without him. It turned out to be unnecessary, it turns out that it is quite possible to do without it. And the prey caught was not prey at all. And nothing kept a woman close, except her own love for a man and a desire to be with him. A woman needs neither fame nor money from a man. How can a man survive the realization that the woman he considered his property is not his at all !
And he suddenly realizes that everything that is next to him now is tinsel, and he has lost a real relationship, true love. And there is no one to blame for this. He did it all himself with his own hands
Thanks for reading.
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