Life lessons; Road to happiness

Experience leads us to a lesson that can be learned. In this world the're so many lessons that we wish to had while we still have the opportunity to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

HERE ARE THE LIFE LESSONS YOU SHOULD LEARN:

•MONEY IS NOT THE KEY TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not really what you need. Tho it helps you ease your sadness but it will never give a lifetime happiness, it only gives you a temporary joy and then after get back to the real delimma. Too much love of money may leads you to danger, that's why you should use it properly. Personally, money was my escape from reality. Everytime a storm came I always look for trendy clothes and spend too much in expensive restaurants. But then I realized from time to time I'm a total coward because instead of facing my problems to get rid of it, I always pack myself to avoid from it which I think I didn't grow.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully happy lives and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

All of us would agree that with money you can buy a house, a nice vehicle, designer shoes and clothes but money on the other hand cannot fix a broken relationship, cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

• DON'T RUSH YOU'RE NOT IN A COMPETITION

Sometimes people often rush into things that they really wanted especially when they reached the adulthood stage. They seemed to do everything at once which is not the proper way to do, you need to decide everything, plan out your life, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out your purpose, and do it all at the same time.

Take it easy— just slow down you still have a lot of time don’t rush into things without a plan. Let your life unfold then decide. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of your food, take time to look around your surroundings, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself to think beforehand.

•PLEASING EVERYONE IS NOT A GOOD IDEA

Focus only to yourself if you want to live a happy life, trying to please everyone is not necessary because all of us have differences. If many people likes you then that good but if there are some who don't then don't bother their judgements that's totally normal it's already in a humans' nature all you need to do is to ignore negativities and live on. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek so be it live your life with positivity and by that happiness shall stay with you.

• VALUE YOUR HEALTH

Staying fit and healthy can definitely help you live longer in this world. Health is our most valuable asset so always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it until we realized that we have to take care of it because this is only our card to live longer. And the only key to value yourself is to embrace your flaws, learn to accept it and make it as a motivation to keep going.

• DON'T EXPECT TOO MUCH

Expecting too much on something that you really want can't lead you to success. We all have this situation that no matter how carefully you plan and how you work hard for it and it didn't work accordingly well that's okay because that's part of life, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to and it's normal that's how life works. But it doesn't mean you'll end up there sometimes life gives us challenges before we find the right direction. Don't give up and don't be afraid to fail explore few things and learn from it so that on the next time you'll try you're now at your destination.

• IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU

The world doesn't rotates in you, you are not the epicenter of the universe. So stop thinking that if a problem will come to your family you don't have to carry all, put in your mind that sometimes you need a companion to fix it. Don't hesitate to seek help find someone that can be trusted and share it him/her. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives.

Being aware of what's happening around you is normal as long as you handle it properly and don't get too affected then be it. It helps to keep things in perspective.

• DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK IF YOU DON'T KNOW NOTHING

No one in this world knows everything, no one figured out everything. Nobody has all the answers unlike you're google. There’s no wrong in saying “I don’t know.” What wrong is pretending that you know all things even if you really don't. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this mindset that there is some kind of shame in admitting our limitations, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

• ALWAYS CHOOSE TO LOVE

Love isn't just applicable in having relationship to someone, start loving yourself and someone will follow. That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is a choice that you make every day. If you choose love then you're in the right path even though others won't love you back that's okay it's not your loss by the way it's theirs. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful and to be happy.

• HAVE A GOOD PERSPECTIVE

Everytime we’re worried about things that are happening to us, it means we’ve lost the perspective we set in our minds. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

• BE APPRECIATIVE

In life we often don’t appreciate things what we have until it’s gone that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have. Appreciate them especially the memories you had with your parents, we'll never know when they'll lasts in this world so treasure the moments you have and love them everyday.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all.

Choose to live in happiness because life changes instantly. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it because regrets will always be in the end.