The Joy in "getting what you wanted"

There are times one gets frustrated, distracted and even depressed because he or she could not get hold of what the heart desires. Most at times, it is material things but not all the time. Some times, it could be a position in a particular group, an attention from someone or group of persons, the love of a person, success in exams and many more.

I once had a friend who was studying in the university. This guy was born with a silver spoon. By that I mean, He is from a very rich background and could afford all his needs. Anything money can buy he could get them for himself because his parents were very wealthy. All he needed was to just open his mouth and let out the words about his needs and the money will be provided instantly. I admired him a lot. Trust me, everyone would want to be in such position: a position where you do not have to worry about what you would eat the next day or the clothes you would wear. Infact, you don't have to struggle for money yourself because someone else is providing it. You don't even have to go through the stress of performing chores because you could easily hire someone with money to do those chores and even run errands for you. It seemed like the perfect life that everyone pray for.

But for my friend, there's something he wanted which he could not get and that kept eating him up. With all the money, he still looked very miserable. He once told me that, he shouldn't have been born. Whenever he uttered such words, I always tried my best to rebuke him and let Him know of how balanced his life was. To some, what kept disturbing my friend then wouldn't have been a thing and they would have overlooked it and moved forward but for him, it was something he so desperately wanted but couldn't get.

I'm sure you are curious to know what this thing was? Well, it is the love of a girl. Yes! That's exactly what was eating him up despite his wealth and status. According to Him, his love for that lady developed over a period of time they had spent in the classroom as course mates. When he first met her, he never believed that his emotions would ever be that strongly geared towards her. But contrary to what he expected, he started developing feelings for her. They both became good friends but my friend wanted something more than friendship from her. He wanted her love.

He was already imagining the both of them together as sweet lovers. Due to how close they were, he was already mistaking the sweet compliments they passed on each other for love utterances. He mistook their regular Hangouts for dates. Within him, he was already deep in a serious relationship.

Then a time came when he wanted to make it official or probably mutual. He summoned the courage to approach his love; I mean, the girl he had fallen deeply in love with. The reply and reaction he got was what nearly sent him into exile. He was told by the girl that she was never in love with him and that she only respected him as a friend and a class mate. By those few words, she was able to cut short my friend's expectations and successfully sent him into depression. Someone that could just snap his two fingers and anything he wants would be right before him had been turned down by a lady.

His emotion was badly wounded and that almost shattered his life. He hardly come out of his room not to talk of going for lectures and was looking really sick. This went on for days and being his friend, I do visit him and console him with words Which I wasn't sure of how well he received them. After all, I could only imagined how he was feeling since I had never been in such situation. Good news, he was able to overcome and come out of that misery.

Now, imagine how he would have felt, be it that the girl accepted his proposal that faithful day. It would have been the best day of his life because he got what he wanted. But the bitter truth is that as humans, we can not always get what we want. If this Truth was to be generally accepted, the percentage of suicidal deaths would greatly reduce.

It is a thing of joy to lay your hands on that thing you so much desire. When you get it, no one measures up to your standard at that moment. You feel like you are in heaven on Earth. But Also, when you don't get that thing at that moment, there is no justification for giving up on life because you better live to strive for it another day and probably you will end up getting it in the end.