Analyzing some situations that have happened to me these days, I have noticed that I am surrounded by narcissistic people, my ex-partner is one of them.
Let me tell you that I had not realized this great detail and because of this surprise, I dedicate these lines to half explain what this type of personality disorder is and how important it is to identify it in time so that it does not harm us.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissism is the love that a person feels for himself.
This is obviously not a bad thing, we should all love ourselves and have self-love because this is the main impulse we need to achieve our personal goals and objectives, to be successful, to be respected and to have very good self-esteem. The problem lies in when that self-esteem reaches the limit of excess.
A narcissistic person creates an exaggerated idea of his own importance, feeling a super important person, creates a world where the need for attention and excessive admiration towards himself abounds, which results in zero empathy towards others and therefore very conflictive relationships.
Characteristics of a narcissistic person
- They believe they are the most important person in the world, loving themselves above all things, believing that their problems and opinions are more important than those of others and the only ones that have value in a situation, which results in not taking others into account and therefore belittling the other for being inferior to them.
If you criticize a narcissist or take the opposite, believe me, you will be their worst enemy and they will look for ways to minimize you in any way, just for the simple fact of not sharing their opinion.
- They feel special, feeling that they are the most important person in the world, they feel that they do not belong in this life and that all those around them are below their capabilities, the world must revolve around them, so they constantly demand admiration and attention. They tell stories where they are always the heroes and of course their actions and decisions are the right ones.
If you have a narcissistic friend or partner you will identify them because they tend to make you feel inferior, either in public or in private, always belittling your capabilities.
- They are incapable of accepting a mistake, as they believe they are a special being brought from another planet and that they are never wrong, they will always look for a way to blame someone else when things do not go well.
LITERALLY AND I SAY THIS FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE, they are incapable of accepting that they are wrong, always in any situation they will be the victims and with their great power of manipulation they manage to turn the real problem around in order to be victorious.
- They are the kings of deception, experts in manipulation and playing the victim, always seeking the acceptance and approval of others, hoping to be recognized for their superiority and achievements, even where there are none.
They will always be the victims of any situation, they will see ghosts where there are none and the rest of us will always envy them.
- Empathy level zero, a narcissistic person will never feel empathy towards others, because simply their life revolves around themselves in their own desires, feelings and needs, they are incapable of having a feeling for another, they simply see the other person as their provider of attention and services, who always has to be available without discussion.
A narcissist is a person of arrogant and overbearing behaviors, sometimes offensive and haughty because they always believe they are right and seek to take advantage of everything in their path only for their own benefit.
A narcissistic person is highly toxic, this disorder can affect both men and women, so it is highly recommended to flee from them.
It is important to mention that if you are in a relationship with a narcissist you should rethink the relationship and what you really want for your life. Nowadays there are many tools to overcome this type of situation. First of all, be aware of the problem, rethink your needs and why you are in a relationship with such a person, understand that allowing this type of situation is a product of the fact that you may also have an emptiness or internal conflict that leads you to get together with this type of person.
It is also important for you to know that a narcissistic person is not as strong as they seem, they use this mask to hide their darkest feelings of inferiority and their great internal conflicts, but that they are not able to accept in order to improve themselves.
Remember a narcissist will never have empathy for you and what happens to you, so your needs and feelings will always be on the bottom rung of the relationship. Living with a narcissist is highly exhausting and in the end it will not leave you with anything good, just a lot of tastelessness and low self-esteem that you really do not deserve, remember we came to this world to be happy, not to be emotionally dependent.
BEFORE THINKING THAT YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH OR THAT YOU DO NOT SERVE, ASK YOURSELF, AM I IN FRONT OF A NARCISSIST?
Maybe you have come across a narcissist, tell me about your experience...
Images from pixabay, translator deepl
Healing:
The 'zero contact rule' helps you heal after the relationship ends.
After a few months you can begin to recognize how they intend to manipulate you by the grammar they use if/when they try to contact you.