Should I Stop or Keep Going?

Love, often synonymous with joy, but can also be accompanied by profound heartache. And for that reason, when you're in a relationship, you give someone a permission to break your heart.

How's your heart right now? Do you find yourself in a situation where you're not sure whether to hold on or to let go?

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To know whether someone is in love with you is far too simple. It's something you can see and feel. It will relax your mind and heart. That person will take care of your heart, and will always be there for you no matter what.

In reality it is not easy to let go. There are days when you say to yourself, "This is enough; I'm exhausted and drained," but deep down you hope that a message, a call, or knock on your door will be from someone who's willing to pursue you and fix everything. In that case, give that person a chance, really.

If you want to beg then do it, do your best to fix everything, tell everything what you feel, don't lose any chances, be honest with your feelings. Once you get hurt and rejected, beg again. Do the same process until you get tired, until you lose interest. When that day comes, letting go of someone doesn't hard as the time you still care. At least at the end, there's no more what ifs, you've finally got the answers you're waiting for, the assurance that you deserve to finally let go.

Let go if you choose to distance yourself. However, once you let go, make sure that you're fix with your decision. Yes, it is difficult and doesn't guarantee that you won't experience pain in the future; in fact, you may experience even more suffering, but what's good is after that pain, there's no more to follow. When that day comes you should take care of yourself, and love yourself.

Holding to someone that isn't for you won't help you to grow. It will give you problems and causes you pain. You won't notice it because it will make you blind. It will make you lower your standards, and ask your worth.

The healing process takes time and is not that simple. It cannot be taken out in a single snap, one slap, or a happy moment. Give that agony some time to pass. You can go crazy to please yourself, sleep to rest, and cry if you want to. Someday you'll remember how much you loved that person, but on that day you've finally moved on, and all it was is a memory with a lesson.

Finally, be kind to yourself and to that person. If you let go someone, let go of those negative things that the person has done to you. Again, it is not easy, but try to heal yourself by forgiving that someone. This will also lead to the next person who will truly love you to be confident in giving his love. Be confident that once you face that person again, there's no love and pain at all; you're finally free.

The only reason why you still stay in that situation is because you still love and care for that person, but once you're over you'll realize that there are more things to focus on than staying in a situation wherein you're not sure if you can get the same benefit. It is true that when you love, you should not ask anything in return because it must be given to you without even asking.

For now, give yourself time to think. Talk to God, talk to yourself. This is the battle between you and your heart.

To end this, ask yourself. Is this battle worth fighting for?

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Hello, everyone! It's nice to be back. I really miss this platform so much. These past few months was a big struggle for me. I lose interest in writing, but now I've decided to go back in writing.

Speaking of writing, I create an account in Medium just yesterday, I post this article there. If you're using Medium, you can search my username name Yvaine Tariq or to see this article.

So how's life so far?

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-Ling01