The Lessons We Need Are in the Tasks We Avoid

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Writing a novel, applying for a particular job, asking that beautiful girl out, selling the old stuff from the garage … Fear wears many masks and layers. It’s a master of disguise. Most people will do whatever it takes to avoid pain without acknowledging the fact that on the other side of it lies freedom and opportunity.

Life is all about experiences. We experience life and we express everything we feel, touch and smell. Sometimes we do it in the open, other times we lock it deep down inside of us, guarding it like a precious treasure.

We define containers, set rules and seldom question principles and laws that have been passed down to us for generations. When life knocks us from our path, we pause and reflect, blame and victimize or take full responsibility for the actions we took or lack thereof. After a while some get back on the same track, others choose or pave a new road bathing in endless possibilities they pull like a vortex from the unknown.

What lessons are waiting for us on the other side of the realm?

Avoiding Pain at All Cost

The feeling of being rejected is deeply engrained in our human mind. The pain and suffering that we associate with rejection is carefully carved into our cells from an early age. We get punished for making mistakes instead of being guided to discover meaningful lessons that are connected with these experiences. Another set of standards most don’t dare to question.

And so we live our lives running away from false associations and wonder why we’re not enjoying the journey. While bliss and abundance is all around us, we narrow our focus consciously or subconsciously, blending out the beauty of the present moment where everything is possible.

Like a broken car on the highway we stop for fuel, look around and dream of that “one day” that for most of us never comes. So we hit the road again frustrated and feeling pity for our sorry little lives without understanding that the power to change in an instant lies in us.

Instead of wandering shoeless clueless through life looking for the outside to determine how we feel on the inside, we should reverse engineer the process and configure the outside according to what we want on the inside.

What if I don’t want to be a doctor, lawyer or engineer like my parents and teachers suggested but go to art school and design my own clothing brand instead?

What if I don’t want to join the corporate world but build my own business?

What if I don’t want to marry and have children but go on an expedition to explore other planets in the galaxy?

What if …..

The Other Side of Nothing

Have you ever noticed that when you run away from fear or avoid pain, everything kind of multiplies and hits you tenfold when you least expect it? Wouldn’t it be wise therefore to learn to dance with fear and pain without allowing them to dominate or control your life?

Life is energy. Pain, fear, suffering, joy, love, gratitude etc. are all sources of energy. The question is how to transform the sources we consider negative into a positive experience.

One of the most proficient ways is to open our hearts and allow that inner child to express its creativity. The frameworks, pathways and adventures it picks might pleasantly surprise you.

A pure, innocent and loving intelligence that is invited to shape our future sees beyond the daily show we try to put up. Coming from a good place is all that’s required for it to help us unleash our hidden potential and talents.

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1 year ago


You have a right point there. As we avoid things we can no longer learn something from it.

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