Why separating yourself from toxic people and environments is very necessary on the path of you becoming your best you?
On the journey of you becoming your best self, it is important not to carry dead weight. In this case in the form of negative energy. We are heavily influenced by the people we spend the most time with especially those we care the most for. Therefore, if those individuals are negative, their negativity can become a part of who we are without us even realizing it.
We all been through relationships we thought were meant to be. Relationships where we felt we did everything right yet it ended up bringing us so much pain in the end. We’ve all been through the herd of being betrayed or being continuously let down by someone we believed in more often than not. These situation often damage our perception of people and the world in general. This is why it is important to know and understand that certain people are just not worth our time and energy. This also helps reassure that there are people and environments in this world that need you exactly for who you are to real you.
In the game of life, think of your energy as a sports team. If you are the only one bearing the positive energy and helping everyone and no one reciprocate your energy, you will eventually drain yourself and lose in the game of life. Separating yourself from these bad teammates that drawn your energy and wears you out will give you the opportunity to play the game of life with better teammates. Teammates that feed off of your great energy and feed you back with their great energy.
Staying away with toxic relationships
1. Be mindful
Notice and accept the situation as it is and do not make excuses for the other person except that it is happening the way it is happening. Notice that envious, jealous, hateful, spiteful or sometimes self-destructive attitudes that they show towards you overtly or subtly. Pay attention towards passive-aggressive attitudes that may be shown when you are praised or spoken of positively. Be aware of who you are and what you feel. Always be conscious of what you want to be represented as in your life.
It is important to be conscious of these attitudes when they are shown like an internal alarm system. These attitudes are not okay and they are counterproductive to your growth. Respect your morals, your values and your principles. You must keep alert mentally and think of methods that are best for a given situation so that you separate yourself from energy that does not feed your foundation on the journey of you being true to you.
2. Trust your gut
When we first meet a person, we usually have an initial gut feeling about them whether it be negative or positive. We always know and feel it no matter how dim that gut feeling may be. With the time, we usually forget this feeling and as we get accustomed to the person and are seduced by the idea of friendliness and our desire to believe that people have good intentions. We suppress that feeling and learn to ignore it.
Stay alert with your gut feeling and be conscious to double think against this gradual flow. Sometimes it helps to have opinions from third parties. Get people you trust that will not benefit from the set relationship to chime in and give their thoughts on it. Trusting and keeping an account of your gut feeling will help you let go in long run
3. Take your time
Think of it as a goal to helping yourself and these things can take time. Gradually spend more time with yourself and pay attention to how you feel when you reflect on situations with those individuals. Write those feelings down so that in future circumstances, you can better avoid similar personalities and those said individuals specifically.
Spend time on self-growth to replace time spent with them. These are things that will help you in the long run such as eating better, exercising more, listening to uplifting music or reading. Simple gradual efforts such as not going out with them as much or consciously avoiding time spent with them will help. You can always give the reason that you are doing these aforementioned activities. This might even inspire them to do better with their time and energy.
