Have you reached the point where you say, "OK, that's it!" ” stage in your life when it comes to harmful people? If that's the case, congrats! You're on your way to a life where you don't have to carry a burden on your shoulders that you don't need. You've completed the first step by deciding that poisonous people have no place in your life. How are you going to make the end aim a reality?
Here are strategies for removing toxic people from your life:
Bring their attention to you.
By bringing their attention to you, you can eliminate toxic people from your life. Allow them to profit from the benefit of the doubt. It's preferable if you address them because they may not be aware that you find them toxic or that they are toxic. No, you shouldn't begin by declaring, "You are poisonous," but you should explain what's bothering you.
You find them poisonous, for example, because all they did was gripe about their job. Inform them that their daily diatribe has a bad impact on you and your enthusiasm for your career. You could wish to close with the suggestion that if they find nothing wrong with their work, they should resign. You may be able to end their toxicity by having this confrontation.
Put an end to the conversation.
Dropping the conversation when they start one is another method to cut them out of your life. Tell them you're busy and show them you're busy if they approach you while you're working. Respond with conversation enders or disinterested statements such as "Oh, okay" or "I already know that." You simply told me a few moments ago.” You can avoid them spoiling your day with their toxicity this way.
Don't pay attention to them.
Wearing your headset will also keep them from chatting to you. Remember that music exists to transfer you to a different world free of harmful individuals. Put those earphones in your ears. You won't be able to hear them no matter what they say this way. Using your headset to say "I don't want to be disturbed, so please keep away" without saying anything is also an effective approach to convey "I don't want to be disturbed, so please stay away."
Don't allow them the chance to speak with you one-on-one.
If you can avoid speaking with them in person entirely, do so. What makes you think you should talk to them in the first place? You must first determine why you feel the urge to communicate in order to design strategies for avoiding conversations with toxic people.
If the toxic people are your coworkers and your tasks are highly tied to theirs, for example, you can communicate by e-mail or just leave a note. You can avoid them introducing superfluous issues that are unrelated to the task at hand by doing so.
Disconnect on social media with them.
Break your ties with them, even if it's only virtually. Block them from your accounts if they continue to bother you even online. People may now contact with one other more easily because to social media. It's a good thing they did the same thing when it came to blocking people from contacting you. You can prevent their accounts and communications from appearing in your inbox.
Allow them to have no emotional impact on you.
Stop them from having an emotional impact on you as well. If none of the blocking and ignoring techniques work, you'll have to emotionally cut them off. You must learn to disregard what they have to say. Do they discuss bogus accusations that have the potential to destroy your reputation? What's the big deal about that? Rest your mind on the fact that you can always use your actions to refute their claims.
If they say you don't perform your job, work hard to do all of your chores to a high standard. Even if you don't say anything in response to their charges, your actions will prove them wrong. Protect yourself from harm by continually recognizing that the words of poisonous individuals have no meaning for you.
Stop making excuses and put your best foot forward.
Pride can get in the way at times. You want to hear and read the toxic people's messages to you so that you can respond as a means of retaliation or self-defense. However, keep in mind that toxic people will find a way to turn the tables on you and make you the poisonous one for replying and defending yourself. The next thing you know, you're caught in a web where the toxic characters pretend to be defenseless victims.
Refrain from fixing what has already been broken.
There may be a part of you that still wants to save the relationship, even if it means absorbing all of the toxicity they are radiating, especially if the toxic people are family members or friends. Allow yourself to relax and let go. You've reached a moment in your life where you desire to break your ties, which indicates that you've reached your limit. It's time to let go in order to maintain your wellness.
It is unhealthy to keep poisonous people in your life. They'll dull your radiance, or worse, they'll make you toxic. They're infectious viruses, therefore treat them like they're viruses. Find a means to break their hold on your life. Do you really want to get infected?
Wherever we go there are just these people who will judge us and whatever good things we do they will always find the bad in us. But what I've learned so far is to nevermind those people, toxic people are insecure people, don't let them get in your way.