Pregnancy Before or After Marriage

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Today, I'd be talking on what people believe on pregnancy before or after marriage/wedding.

First of all, sometimes I baffle on how God made the will of choice to be free to humans, we have freedom to decide totally for ourselves, whether good or bad. Don't you think it would have been better if God has a control room at His place to program our thoughts and choice? But who am I to question God. He created man the way he wants it.

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The point of going with pregnancy first before wedding or wedding first before marriage, is all channeled to our different beliefs of individuals or tradition of a country, region or religion.

Pregnancy Before Marriage.

A lot of individuals, countries, traditions and religion fancy this fact of getting pregnant first before proceeding to marriage or wedding.

Just like I said earlier, these people have their freewill to choice, belief and decision.

🔹Some people adopt this method when childbearing is difficult in the family of either the man or the woman involved. When a guy sees a lady he likes and want to marry, he would first of all make enquiries about the Lady's background (most times with the help of his family People), if the family of the girl is found wanting(difficult to childbearing), he would suggest for pregnancy first before proceeding to wedding. To them, this is a preventive measure to avoid being caged in the marriage of childlessness. Should we question this attitude? Well, it doesn't look nice to me, even if the family of the lady had issues with childbearing, destinies are not the same, even hereditary diseases are destroyable. Miracles are real!

🔹On this fact again, during the early stages of ladies, alot had done countless abortions and have made them wombless(no capacity to get pregnant), if a guy come across such lady and want to marry her, his conscience will push him to practice pregnancy first before marriage to confirm what he had seen, heard or noticed about the lady. This is very common in my country, even the Christian's are confidently practising this and I must say it's alarming because it's against the Christ like doctrine(yeah, it's against the doctrine I was trained to believe because some Christian doctrines believe the other way)

This happend to a someone I know very well in our church, he is to marry a girl he has been courting for years, then suddenly a news came out that he's not going to marry the girl again because he heard the lady had done multiple abortions and so she's not been able to conceive. But miraculously, she got pregnant and the wedding was done traditionally only, and church wedding was cancelled because the church is against that.

🔹Desperate Ladies and guys also have their contributions to this, a lot of people in relationship use pregnancy to lure the opposite gender into marriage. They believe once a pregnancy enters, that's the quickest way to get married to their dreamlover. This is wrong too, if the marriage is tied to a pregnancy and not on a solid marriage agreement, what if after marriage the lady has miscarriage or the lady give birth and the baby dies? It would definitely result to another thing.

🔹Boyfriends and girlfriends that the lady mistakingly gets pregnant along the line(yeah, mistakingly) is also another form that leads to pregnancy before marriage.

🔹What about religions that supports pregnancy before marriage? If you haven't seen, I have seen. I've seen and heard religious heads preaching to encourage people to give in to pregnancy first before marriage, they believe the era we are have broadened and a lot of the things of old are to be laid off. They believe it's better to prevent than to cure🙈.

Just like how I started my article on how God gave us freewill to our decisions, even the body of God have different beliefs on what HE HAS SAID.

Marriage Before Pregnancy

Sorry to bug you but this is where I stand. The Christian faith I was brought up with is even against the idea of s*x before marriage, not to talk of going as far as getting pregnant. Apart from the church angle of it, its equally very risky for the people involved. What if the guy doesn't fulfil his promise or the lady get to realise that the guy has also impregnated two other girls after impregnating her? what will be her fate?.

But on a general note, marriage should not be attached to any other thing but love. Haven't you heard that love conquers all? Love should lead to the marriage, even when childbearing complications steps in, with two genuine hearts meeting God, pregnancy is possible.

I've heard series of testimonies about deadwomb giving birth to multiple of twins after waiting for years.

I know it takes God to take such decision, to but if your heart it genuinely trusting God, miracles are bound to happen...

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Although some mistakes and circumstances are not controllable by mere human, maybe pregnancy before marriage led to your marriage, there's no cause for alarm, it's just a message I'm passing across.

But the beauty in having a baby or getting pregnant after marriage is immeasurable. It won't be seen to you as a condition.

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27th November 2021