Try to see yourself through the eyes of others

Our lives are shaped by our perceptions. The way we perceive life and our inferences affect our thoughts and behaviors. We pass the behavior of those around us through our own perception filters. We have an opinion about people. On the other hand, we have to recognize that there are always differences between how we see ourselves and how others see us. But sometimes the distance between our self-evaluation and others' perceptions of us can be very large. And since everyone perceives the world differently, everyone thinks that their version of interpretation is more accurate.

Let's start by looking at the definitional differences between perception and reality. Perception is a belief, theory, idea, feeling, feeling, opinion, view, observation, insight, awareness or sensitivity. How we perceive something we see depends on the filters we build up over time. These filters are experience, emotions, expectations, moral views.

For example, our best self according to the people around us may not be the best self according to the person themselves. It may or may not be real, and initial perceptions can often change with the passage of time, change of circumstances or additional information. Reality, on the other hand, is certain, authentic, true and provable. True reality is undeniable and non-negotiable.

Being aware of how others' perceptions of us are formed is like looking in a mirror. The most important thing, of course, is to face the truth. In another sense, the perception others have of us is a fact that we have to accept. We may not agree with it, or different people may have different perceptions of us. Nevertheless, we cannot ignore these perceptions either. Because they will behave in a certain way according to how they perceive us, and these perceptions will now have a significant impact on our life outcomes.

The difference between the perceptions of those around us and what we think about ourselves is our blind spot. If we don't see our blind spot, some blockages can form in our lives and we can't do anything about it. These blockages can continue to affect us negatively by creating barriers to progress on our path.

Being able to see the blind spot is about learning to access better quality information and also developing a more refined filtering system that will allow us to have more accurate perceptions and a better understanding of ourselves and others.

As Socrates put it succinctly and clearly "Know thyself!" This is the right starting point, but it is not easy to see our own blind spot. When we need to take action on things that scare us, or in moments of making crucial decisions, we may have assumptions about ourselves that are different from reality. This is because we cannot see our blind spot. It is because of the misleading effect of fear on our perceptions. Because fear is like radiation, if you spend a little too much time around it, it affects and changes you.

If we want to see our blind spots, we need to be able to look at ourselves through the eyes of others. The simplest way to find out is to ask for feedback from people whose thoughts you trust and who can speak their thoughts from the heart and openly to really learn how we are perceived. With any feedback, it doesn't matter whether you agree with it or not, or whether it is true to you.

Anything you disagree with is your blind spot! Find your blind spots! Understanding others' perceptions will give you a good source of communication, a learning opportunity and the ability to manage perceptions. Once you understand this, you can move on to finding ways to create the perception that will take you in the direction you want.