Importance of Confidence

I do not want to be here. I don't have the confidence for it. I didn't want to be here to endure this. You see. I don't like crowds, and I don't like pressure: I avoid festivities, can't stand sorts of a sports crowd. I feel uncomfortable here too; a touch of nausea, especially when I can't guess of anything good to say. I have no idea what I sound like. How can I be sure I'm not making a clown of myself?

I have been told occasionally that I'm not bad at speaking, but frankly, I think I'm disastrous. My mind hurries to bring the following words to my lips, and I pray that I don't trip over the text -- butterflies always flitter in my stomach. I usually ask myself when I'm speaking, why am I here, in this situation, and why would on earth would I put myself in here, and I have no clue.

I do know, nonetheless, that I m not alone. Everybody has spoken to isn't confidential about himself or herself in some significant way. When it comes to conversation or integrity, or even to action, many people simply, do not believe in themselves, and they are pinned down by it. Public speaking; That is my demon. For a long time, I was petrified by the mere thought. I envy people who can do this with ease. Like this old friend I have. He is truly speech confident; he is very expressive. He talks to people he doesn't know without difficulty, so much so that last time I visited him, he walked up to strangers on the freeway and lectured them on quantum physics for fun. Much to my amazement, he kept his audience the plurality of the time- despite their schedules, despite their meetings. He knows how to speak like a specialist on almost anything, and it all comes from his strong confidence in his presentation skills. He is not scared to speak; he sounds like he has confidence in what he's talking about, and it shows in his many triumphs in life.

Being articulate is a significant part of your confidence because it is how you express who you are. Without it, you lack that fundamental ability to communicate your personality to the rest of your world. Unfortunately, the person who has this power is fairly rare. Not many are very comfortable in their speech, especially under pressure. They can do it, but their discomfort becomes more and more obvious in front of a larger or more fierce audience.

Of course, some people can speak about anything and everything. Sometimes, though, the words they produce are sunken, conformist. They have no confidence in their identity. No defining impressions, opinions, or principles that can be shared. No integrity. They are simply who they need to be and nothing more, because they are so frightened by everybody sells principles that they can not be who they are. They oppose and ultimately betray themselves by refusing to stand up and stand out, but they blend, they conceal, and they stay unsure.

But character is important to the development of a person because it furnishes clear guidelines for his or her development as a self. Without confidence in the character, you remain invisible, and these significances, beliefs, impressions, and wonderful things that make a person extraordinary and individual are tucked away in some dark, slight corner. Frequently people with poor character confidence copy the styles developed by others. They come to failure about what to think when engaged with the question Who are you? or they find themselves with social crises, often because they cannot suppose what to do, where to go, who to become.

But how do you get the character? It does not grow on trees or falls out of the sky. But it comes from finding out who you are. Try things. Its that simple. I remember reading a comic line, Calvin, and Hobbes..!

remember that in the strip Calvin, beaten and crushed by his living ferocious bicycle, wanders into his living room and his dad says Well! It seems like somebody is been building some character! Even though you don't have to be mutilated riding a bicycle to build character, the general idea is correct. He tried something new. I did it too, and I quickly discovered how important it is, and I found another covered part of me. It is easy! You see something you have never done before, you only need the confidence to do it, to take the fall, to unearth something that may further define you. But the confidence to take these wonderful risks is, sadly, the least common order.

Remember when you were in third grade? And that one kid who pushed you around and told you to give him your sweet? Happened to me too, and I gave him the candy! Fair exchange right? Your life in exchange for some chocolate? And how many times did it happen again, because each time you chose safety instead of a luxury? Well, you didn't just give up luxury, and I will tell you why. Because one day, I said no to that kid. That's right- I looked him straight in the eyes and told him that I was keeping my M&Ms. He got this soothing look, just coolly walked up to Me, and he flattened my nose.

And I got a fat lip, a couple of battle scars, but there was also something else, something gleaming and new and powerful. I suddenly knew that I could do what I had to. I had been a decisive-a man of effort, and that took confidence. Trying new things requires confidence in your ability to take slight risks and to question the rigors of life. Confidence in action led me to take the right path despite my anxieties of been hospitalized. Visualize what I would have done without it, Of course, I might have spent the entirety of my grade school years concealing treats in my secret jacket pocket, but I might also have hidden somewhere, and maybe I never would have found my character.

Confidence is the maker of heroes, the crowner of kings, and the bard of poets. So why reject it for a static personality?

Be decisive!

Have integrity!

Speak up!

Because without these things, we are boring! Were a shadow of pale gray: with no voice, no action, and no personality. Know who you are and what to do and how to say it. Find out yourself, because that is confidence. Express your thoughts without fear, because that is confidence. Have faith in your actions and yourself, That is confidence too. People do not fail because they never succeeded; they fail because they had no confidence to speak, no confidence to act, no confidence to find themselves.

You only truly fail when you never try!

I knew what I have to do. I have to stare them down, these butterflies. I force words to my mouth with the belief that they strike as planned. I trust that I have the character to be here and tell you to find yours. And I am here because of that decisiveness that I paid such a high price for. And in the face of all this confidence, I have accumulated.

The butterflies have faded away.