Experience

Whatever the reason for highlighting personal relationships in the Girls Group, no one's personal experience is pleasant in the end.

A year ago, I used to read the story of a sister's life in a group of girls, her childhood love, the death of that man, then for many days she was like crazy. Even then someone came into her life centering on her wanting to live again but that man was wrong too! The worst part of this was that he was seriously ill. In fact, it was like telling the story of his life. And the story of his life given in the form of episodes was like flooding the readers So far so good. She was getting sympathy, everyone was praying, some could not be normal after reading her story. And a very common comment was Apu could not hold back her tears. It is not right for him to tell the story of his life here.

I read another such touching story in that group. She could not forget the love before marriage, her husband was also very cruel. She came back with the baby and later she went back to her previous boyfriend. What moved him the most was that from an early age he was subjected to harassment and discrimination by his own family members. Her mother and father were very intolerant towards her. Normally she did not get any support to bring her back. Since most of us are still conservative in our thinking, a restless childhood, the cruelty of a relationship, the physical and mental torture that has been going on for many years, has all been overshadowed by the girl's character! Many sympathized with her and questioned the character of the rest of the girl. Usually those who are exposed to a lot of cruelty in childhood are either very violent type or more flexible than necessary. The girl was also very flexible. When the girls questioned her character, she did not retaliate and tried to explain her situation very politely. I know why there was so much love for the girl. I thought when I saw him in front of me I would put my hand on his head and say, you are right Bubu.

In fact there is a period of human sympathy. And as soon as that period is over, questions arise in our minds, we want to ask for proof of truth and falsehood and we want to apply our personal point of view to others. Now come to reality.

The simple fact that "what is private is really private" is perhaps the most difficult to understand. After an early period of life, we all become more and more familiar with the impact of retaliation. For some it is less and for others it is more. Happiness and sorrow go hand in hand in human life till the last day of life. Some wounds we all carry. Those who don't know us, don't know if they really have the power to heal those wounds? Does the desire to get so much sympathy at all serve to give us mental strength at all? Or he breaks down more in different judgments of different people. maybe he has brought his story to the fore out of frustration, maybe he wants to give an instructive message to everyone and maybe he wants fame in the name of sympathy. I have nothing to say about the number three reason, but I have something to say about the above two reasons, the only way to overcome personal frustration is to spend quality time with people close to you, there is nothing for strangers to do for you, empathy lasts too long and that happiness And the instructive message? Everyone's life is different, one's experience doesn't work in another's life, life philosophy is different for everyone, and so is the type of relationship. Your instructional message can do the opposite instead of benefiting.

From birth to death, we all cling to one relationship or another. Maya of the nearest people, love of the loved one, neglect, receipt, non-receipt, hope, despair, this is the life of everyone. Someone leaves the hand in the middle and someone grabs that hand again. If you are in a good relationship, you may have the credit of your loved one, but the biggest credit is the fortune teller. So the relationship should not be "marketed" but should be thanked to Allah.

The term "relationship marketing" is aggressive and malicious! But better words are not coming, is this not happening now?

Why do we organize so much to make our personal relationship acceptable to others! I want to say again, "What is private is really private."

Thank you.