How negative feelings affect a person? 

Have you ever heard someone screaming and uttering unreasonable or inappropriate phrases like, "I am not angry"? This person hurts himself a lot.

Have you ever heard someone yell and say, “I am not angry,” even though he is screaming but he is uttering some positive statements that prevent his inner feelings from controlling consciousness, because that person is trying to block these hateful feelings and pretend to be cold. Unfortunately, however, it has been found that the issue of ignoring unpleasant or bad feelings and pretending that they are ineffective in life has a high cost and this cost is not good at all. As we know, they are the laws of life that stipulate that everything has a tax, and the tax of extinguishing these hateful feelings is the energy that a person consumes to get rid of those unwanted feelings, and this energy consumption leads to some changes or disturbances.

Some negative consequences of suppressing unwanted feelings

• A person experiences a state of stress, which in turn fuels mood disorders. Among the most prominent of these disorders: states of anxiety and depression.

• Not only are the psychological symptoms, but the consequences may extend to the physical symptoms. Including: back pain, headache, digestive problems or exposure to stomach pains and problems.

• Feeling a state of sluggishness, laziness, loss of vitality, and chronic fatigue, as we find that fatigue and forgetfulness are common in such cases.

What feelings does a person deny?

We cannot deny the fact that all human feelings are valuable, whether positive or negative, but there are some of them more famous that a person denies when exposed to undesirable situations, and these feelings have been observed in the studies conducted in this regard, and they are three feelings, namely:

• Anger: There is an old saying from a foreign language that I can put forward in this regard, which is "depression is directing anger inward." As denying anger is a big mistake in the right of the self, as it deprives a person of great energy, and in order to solve this matter, he must learn how to reach and focus anger so that the expected depressions and anxiety in such cases can be reduced.

• Psychological wound:When we were children and someone told us hurtful words that hurt our feelings, we quickly cried and screamed and after a little while we forgot about it and went back to playing or practicing any activity, we did not realize at the time the meaning of the word stamina, we used to show our feelings with all innocence, but when we grew up, the society around us established in us The term stamina, and that we should never show negative emotions. This is a big mistake, as it prompts us to waive our rights to show emotion, and most likely this is because we feel ashamed or offended when we admit that we have been hurt. Especially in the event that a person has a history of being bullied, so the person resorts to denying the harm he has suffered in order to protect himself from feeling weak and thus injured. When a person can recognize the times when he is truly injured, it helps him repair himself, he may not be able to distinguish between times when he is injured and normal times.

• Fear: Have you ever seen a scary movie before? If the answer is yes, then you are often in a state of horror while watching, and this is normal, but what is not normal, is your denial of the state of terror that you were exposed to when you saw something terrifying, be it a movie or an event. This is not a good skin, as I notice many people believe that fear is a sign of courage and bravery, and the matter is not at all the case, for fear is one of the feelings that afflict any human being, and when a person denies it, he may make decisions that are not wise or dangerous, and I do not lie to you, friend. These decisions can be devastating.

Denial of feelings harms

Denying feelings and not expressing them is not desirable and causes bigger problems at the same time does not solve any problem. It just takes these problems out of your consciousness, but they remain buried within you, and they will appear sooner, sooner or later. It is like an undesirable person who comes to you suddenly without warning, and the same hateful feeling comes again, and the result is that a person finds himself caught in an endless spiral, and the reason for this is that the issue is not resolved. With the passage of time, a person loses his ability to sense self, and thus suffers from bad situations, including confusion in identity, chronic disappointment, and unhealthy relationships.

How to show emotion wisely

Feelings, whether hateful or good, come from human emotion, when a person tries to hide them, it is as if he is insulting them. In this case he must learn to display it wisely and honor it. It is an automatic thing that appears from within the human being. What I want to say is that denying it is an act against human nature, which is very bad and the consequences are known. Therefore, a person must learn how to treat these feelings and show them wisely and become more focused on them, so that he becomes more in tune with others and more able to control his feelings in a way that does not harm him and does not feel that he has shown his weakness in front of others. It takes several exercises to develop it, and now we offer you some tips that will help you move forward with this matter.

• Look inside yourself and delve into your feelings: Welcome, friend, in the age of speed, in which you find most people spend most of their time on social media, computers, or any other type of electronics that robs a person of his time, so that he does not find time to think about himself, not even knowing Itself well. Therefore, it is necessary for a person to realize this fact well and start to organize his time and devote some time every day to delve into oneself and understand feelings and focus on them, by the way, blogging will help a lot in this matter, when a person writes about his feelings with his hand, his awareness of it increases and he feels a deeper sincerity in his writing Use a notebook and write how you feel, no one else will read this notebook, so write honestly and comfortably, friend. Over time, you will realize that your feelings have become less ambiguous, and I promise you that you will understand them well.

• See a professional: There are many therapists who specialize in all areas, there are mental health counselors, support groups, marital counseling, etc. Why not go to a professional therapist? This will help you a lot, but if it doesn't work for you, you can turn to an honest friend.

• Reward yourself: rewarding and appreciating oneself is one of the most very good things that helps a lot in developing one’s self. You can encourage it financially or morally with encouraging words and phrases. Trust me, this will contribute a lot to solving the problem.

And finally .. Be confident, my friend, that this life is too short, and you should live every moment as it is. Do not postpone the joy, it is necessary, and do not ignore sadness, as he will pursue you until it gets you and pays you a heavy price for ignoring him, or any other negative feelings. At the same time, be wise in your actions and do not let these feelings dominate you and put you in an endless cycle, and believe me, life is really short.