Love is everywhere, and when it hits you, you'll feel like you can overcome all the hardships in the world, difficult things become easy, you'll feel extremely happy like you are over the moon, swimming in the clouds. That even if the food you are eating taste bitter but when you think of the person you love it taste sweet. But not all love can be reciprocated. That kind of love called "Unrequited Love". Unrequited love brings pain, grief, and can even make your confidence fall. The saddest part is that you're the only one to suffer since it is one-sided love.
Question, why does unrequited love exist? That's when you love the person who is already in a relationship, or if you break up with the person you're in a relationship with and the other person falls out of love but you remain in love. Or simply because not all people can love us back, especially if you are not compatible with the person you love, you don't share the same vibes, interest, and other variables.
Experiencing unrequited love does not imply like its the end of the world. Sometimes experiencing hardship before the easy one is better. There are many things we can do to successfully move forward after the heartbreak of unrequited love. It may feel impossible now, especially as you begin the healing process, but know that this takes time and healing can happen. Although unrequited love can feel extremely painful, it can offer us an opportunity to grow in unexpected ways. There are 3 effective ways to cope with unrequited love.
1. Allow yourself to grief. Humans shed tears in response to a range of emotions. Crying is the best option if you want your burden to be lessen. Crying your heart out can make you feel better and may also relieves pain. Crying does not mean you are weak instead you'll become stronger when you cry. And if you are done crying, acceptance will follow.
2. Acceptance. When love is unrequited, one can find themselves questioning why they are not “enough”? Unrequited love does not mean you are not worth it, that you are not enough. You're still the wonderful person you are, but you are so overwhelmed with the other person's feeling that you think and affected you negatively. Love is a strong emotion that cannot be conjured up in day or faked. It requires time, care, attention and it has to be genuine. Once you can accept the reality of the situation, you can gain distance and perspective that will allow you to move on and start building a relationship that is reciprocated. Accepting the fact that she/he does not love's you back will lead you to move forward. Like they always says "Acceptance is the key."
3. Love him/her until your love fades out. No need to stop loving the person you love because if you do, it will only make your love goes deeper. You can't force yourself to stop loving since your heart cannot be commanded or mandated. All you have to do is give your all, love him/her with all of your heart. Love him /her until you'll get used to not having your feelings be returned by the person you love. Love him/her until you finally feels like its becoming boring, that way your love will fade out.
Coping unrequited love with the right way will heal your wounds fast. Always remember that it is okay to experience unrequited love so that in the near future when the same situation happens, you know how to cope with it. Having experience will definitely lead you to the right path since you'll know by then what to do, how to correct the mistakes and all. Unrequited love hurts, but it is possible to heal, grow, and move on from the experience.