A Moment of Reflection, About How To Be A Firm, Courageous and Respected Person
If all this time your partner's attitude has not matched what you want from him (he is rude, acts on his own, can't respect and appreciate you) it's because you don't have the leadership spirit to direct him to be what you want.
How can you lead other people (women), if you can't lead yourself. One indication that you can lead yourself is when you can be yourself and not easily influenced and follow others.
The quality of a leader that you must have is firm. Assertive means you can decide the best solution for every problem with full confidence and confidence. Firmness also means being able to consistently take responsibility for the decisions that have been taken.
Apart from being assertive, some of the qualities of a leader that you must have are being able to set a good example for the people you lead, be a good listener, be responsible, establish good communication and interaction with the people you lead and dare to admit mistakes. Those are just some of the leadership qualities that you must apply in yourself to be able to lead your women.
The most basic thing about your ability to lead women is never to say "it's up to you" when a woman asks for your opinion.
You must be able to give opinions and direct them, help choose and make decisions.
Leading doesn't mean managing. You have to differentiate between leading and managing.
Leading you to give him consideration in choosing and helping him make choices, while managing is that you force your will to do what you want.
Some of the male leadership abilities that you should train yourself from now on are:
Able to Make Plans / Goals
You have to show women that you have the ability to make plans and goals in your life.
Be a man who has goals and plans to achieve your dreams and goals.
The easiest thing and you have to do: Wherever you go on a date or vacation, you have to decide.
Able to Make Decision
Women will never be attracted to fickle men, indecisive and unable to make the best choice in life. Because it indicates that you are a man who does not have the confidence to decide something and does not dare to take risks.
Able to Manage/Deal with Problems
There is no relationship that runs smoothly without problems, there will definitely be the slightest problem that will test to strengthen or destroy your relationship.
But if you have the ability to manage problems, women will trust you more and rely on you to make the best decisions for your problems.
By being able to manage/handle problems, you will be judged and seen as an independent and responsible man by women. And that could be the reason why they are attracted and depend on you for their life.
Able to be Responsible
If you can't be responsible for your life, how can you be responsible for a woman's happiness?
Women can't trust a man who can't take responsibility. Because women will not give their lives to men who are not able to take responsibility.
In addition to these 4 leadership skills, you also have to start training your assertiveness in leading by doing these 3 things:
1. Consistent and not easily carried away
People who are assertive will not be easily influenced by others and remain consistent in what they do. He can determine what is best for himself and his partner because he has careful consideration with his consistent attitude.
2. Dare to make mistakes in making decisions
He prefers to make mistakes than never to make any decisions. For assertive people, making mistakes is better than staying silent. Firm people always solve problems immediately so as not to drag on and add to the problem.
3. Dare to take action
People who are assertive are not only stuck in their plans but also dare to realize their plans with concrete actions. Assertive people prefer to run the risk of making the wrong choice than to be too long in doubt about their plans.
Those are the things you must apply in yourself to be a firm leader. You have to start training and get used to being a firm leader. Because with your assertiveness in leading women, you will also be better able to maintain your relationship and control and regulate whatever happens in your relationship.
In addition, as a man who is a firm leader, women will respect and appreciate you more as a man who can be relied on and responsible for himself.
And when you can show assertiveness in your leadership, a woman will willingly give her life to you because she believes that you are a man she can trust to lead and direct her.
