Honesty, Is it the loneliest word?

"Honesty is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard and mostly what I need from you."

• this is from the lyrics of the song Honesty performed by Billy Joel.

I considered myself as a real music lover mostly of the song from the 80's and even older. I was influenced by my grandfather and my mother as well because they really have that given talent to sing so I have that little talent to sing too. Last night my mom was scrolling songs from YouTube and she told me of a certain song that she really likes to hear. And that is the song of Billy Joel entitled "Honesty". She told me to try to listen to this song and give emphasis to the lyrics not just its melody. And so I did listen to it. Yes indeed the lyrics is nice its a sad reality experienced by the many. Then what makes it a lonely word?

Deceitful child

Yes, what makes it a lonely word? There was a neighbor of ours way back two years ago who have told us about the story of his son an adopted son that they took care and treated as their real son. They have that child since he was born. I think its because that child is the son of their relative, and a single mother. And she asked if they can take care of her child because she will be working abroad. To sum it up the couple welcome the child with open arms and so much gratitude in their hearts because she can't bore a child. Many years have passed and that child was already in college. They got him enrolled at one of the universities here. Every week he would asked them some money and insisted that its for his project, so they never denied his every request. One time he asked money for his tuition fee and told her mom he will be the one to have himself enrolled, so the mother gave him the money. They gave in to whatever he would ask for they thought it was for his school purposes.To cut the story short, two years later before they knew that their son is not really enrolled, and is a drop out. They felt so sad and disappointed that after they took care of him, love him, he betrayed their trust in him. He was a dishonest son. And the worst thing they have discovered is the money they have given him were used to buy prohibited drugs.

My reflection

How can you be this heartless of doing this kind of things to your parents who have lots of sacrifices since you were just a baby, with all the sleepless night just to take care of you and feed you. Problems like this such as juvenile delinquency is very much common in our society. The sad thing is lots of judgemental people always point the blame to the mother and reason that this kind of things usually happened because the mother tolerated her child's misconduct but I do not totally agree with this kind of reasoning. No matter how you mold him to become a better person if he/she doesn't care about himself, then its beyond the parents control anymore. Parents only think of what is good about their children. It's up on us to give back to our parents the gratitude they deserved.

Betrayal of friendship

We treat friends like they belong to our families. Of course, friendships are built because of trust, loyalty, and compatibility. But do they last? Dishonesty in a friendship seemed to be normal these days. For example, leaking an information or a secret a friend trusted to you, talking back behind their backs, ruining their image to other people, and a lot more. These are just few of the most popular betrayals in friendship, and within those betrayals, dishonesty arises. Are there really people like that? Yes. Why did they do it? Honestly, no one would know. Real friendship are rare this days, you'll have no idea what intention or agenda someone has if they say they wanted to be your friend, if they're someone you can trust - or the opposite of it. For me, the lesser friends you have, the lesser betrayal you'll face, and the more trust you can give. That's why, we should be careful in choosing who we want to be friends with, people are tricky, and having your trust destroyed by someone you know, surely doesn't feel great.

Marital infidelity

This is one of the most painful experience a person can have brought about by unfaithfulness. The very sad reality about it is you have build your life with him/her. You have given your full trust because both of you promised that you will love each other for eternity, and yet one of you will just ignore your marriage vows. I've known someone who've been separated from his husband. I asked her what prompted her to decide such thing, she answered me, she could no longer bear the pain and insult inflicted by her husband's repeated lies. She said, she would rather be punched physically several times, but the emotional stress and anxiety is more difficult to bear. Many are against about that kind of decision because the feeling of their children must be their priority. The feeling of having an incomplete family brings so much confusion to the children. That's why many remains and absorb all the feeling of uncertainty because they're afraid of how their kids will feel for their broken marriage. On the other side, we cannot blame those couple who have decided to part ways, because they don't want to be imprison of a relationship that is no longer working. What's the use of being together when one of you is just pretending. Worst thing is you will live in misery everyday seeing all those lies and pretentions. Well, we really can't tell what's the right way of dealing your partner's infidelity because each one of you has its own reason to tell. Not unless we wear the same shoe, that's the only time we can answer all those questions.

Closing Thoughts

With all of these pain, unfaithfulness, deceit which can break somebody's heart into pieces makes the truth so hard to hold. Indeed honesty is such the loneliest word. Billy Joel's song speak the hard truth of it.

PS: Guys, I hope you haven't experienced any of these things I've mentioned above, its really a sad feeling being lied by somebody you trusted and loved. And thank you also guys for taking time to read.

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