In my previous article, we began to talk about '' Love '' as a tool for a blissful marriage. That the kind of love that makes marriage blissful is beyond feeling and sight; such love must be deep rooted in the heart of both couples.
It was deduced that any marriage where true love is present, crisis can never destroy such marriage rather its strengthens the cord that binds the persons involved.
It was also mentioned that true love is not in born but a gift received from God by someone who has attained the true knowledge of God.
That God's love towards mankind is never feeling or sight based; otherwise we would have long been disengaged from the earth because of our manner of disobedience to God every day.
Today, we shall look at the relationship between feeling (emotion) and true ''Love '' in marriage.
I have been wondering why some many marriages around the world are failing and the rate of divorce on the increase. Sometimes, l thought marriage was originally designed by God to fail, considering the rate of marital crisis across the continents.
In my deep search for answers to so many questions surrounding failed marriages, l have found out from the manual of creation, the holy bible, that God never originally designed marriage to fail. That the reason for marital failure is lack of knowledge of true '' Love ''; which l simply referred to as '' the author and finisher of marriage ''.
I have found out that marriage was originally designed by love (God), made to function by love and enjoyed with love. Love is the basic foundation for a blissful marriage. Until would-be partners have tasted of this love, our dreams or aspirations of a blissful marriage will remain a mirage or an illusion. Again, Love holds the key to other salient virtues expected from couples in marriages; such virtues are; faithfulness or fidelity, patience, self control, tolerance, to mention but a few. These are all by-product of a true love.
True love is not feeling or emotion but true love does create feeling or emotion. To have feeling or emotion for someone is never something bad but an important means of connection to one another. Feeling or emotion can evolve as a result of certain chemical reaction (hormones) within the human body triggered by internal or external factors. Feeling or emotion can fluctuates at any given point in time depending on the nature of internal or external factors.
Love regulated by internal and external factors is nothing but a mere emotional rampage. No wonder, Selman in 2020, defined feeling or emotion as temporary disposition based on something we considered pleasant about someone or object. Love based on feeling and emotion is temporal and should never be trusted in marriage. Marriages can never be blissful on such a sinking foundation
Again, building anything on feeling and emotion is a guarantee for failure and frustration. Feeling or emotion has brought so many marriages into trouble. Feeling (emotion) based love always fizzled out especially when there is a negative emotional disposition occasion- ed by unpleasant occurrences or situations such as; infidelity, disappointment, anger, lies, to mention but a few.
A number of things can as well create a positive emotional disposition such as; captivating appearance, good character, good family background, financial affluence, sound spirituality, to mention but a few, but non of these virtues can be ascribed as love. For example, someone could erroneously be attracted to a particular girl simply because of her beauty or character but when such beauty or character plummets, the emotional love for such a girl will inadvertently dropped because such love was based on positive emotional disposition.
Nevertheless, to be attracted to a girl simply because of beauty or character is not bad but such must never be a basic foundation for marriage. Establishing marriages on feeling or emotion is nothing but an impulsive crap. Feeling or emotion can be deceptive and is not an accurate measure of love. No one can rightly say that feeling or emotion is bad but establishing conjugal relationship on it is one of the greatest mistakes of couples in marriage.
Good presentation, if only couples could based their experiences and actions in marriage on God's standard marriage would be heaven on Earth. Try submit it to a community, "making marriage work again" just search for it and join so you can have a community to submit going forward.