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Reactions to rejection are different from person to person. From a simple shrug and going back to trying to thinking It is the end of the world. It is a reality that to be told no despite of all our efforts hurts. However, what separates a person that reaches success and other that quits at the beginning is their capacity to tolerate failure, where one can show the results of his/her work without fear and accept the feedback whilst the other doesn't even give It a try because of the default belief that everyone will hate his/her job. That's why in this article I'll show you that being rejected from anything, being It a business proposal, a job, a potential relationship or a group of friends is not as bad as you make It seem, as there are a hundred of things that could go worse, giving you the encouragement you might need to give your calling a try. Let's begin:

The "What If" curse

You can call them excuses, fear, justifications and many other names, but a common element that you can find in these is a simple conditional statement that acts as resistance to you acting out what you say you are going to do. When you immediately ask yourself what If X, Y or Z goes wrong, you know that you are succumbing to the fear of rejection and failure. I'm not telling you that you shouldn't keep an eye on all the aspects of the process which affect the final product, though that you should not be paralyzed by them and not act. For example, many men don't approach women they feel attracted to because of the thought "What If she rejects me and everyone sees It?".

That being said, past the initial doubt, there is also the aftermath of rejection Itself, which, If handled badly, can lower the level of self worth of the person and put him/her closer to leaving It all for good. This usually happens when the individual thinks that the critics of his/her work are directed towards him/her as a person, taking the blows seriously and introducing a lot of negative beliefs such as "I'm a fraud", "I can't do It", or "I'm worth nothing".

Separate the Art from the Artist

I'm pretty sure that you have heard this phrase whenever an artist or a person that has made important contributions to the world say things that are outrageous to say the least. What you don't know is that even artist themselves use this phrase to separate the output of their work from their own Ego, in this way not letting themselves be blinded by accolades or affected by critiques, all because they know that whatever they do now belongs to the world, not to themselves.

This is the same approach you should take when you're doing whatever you do, taking your action as something that is separated from your person once you put It out there and that If It goes badly, you will just have to change your methods to produce something better. In this way you will not feel bad when someone ignores you or say something harsh about your pieces of work, as you'll just have to correct them.

I hope that this article could have been of benefit, showcasing why rejection is something that people take too seriously, giving you an alternative view of It that can serve you make It more impersonal and easily adjustable so you know that what others said is about what you do, not about you. Thank you for your support and good luck!