Long time no see

Many of us who live with another person, being either your parents, your spouse or a roommate are constantly in a state of internal war with the thought of seeing them, usually bottling up feelings of anger and resentment towards them, which makes our interactions with them less significative and more clogged with negative emotions. This might have to do with a lot of things, like not telling them when they are making you feel deprecated, the duality of being dependent to others or just the fact that you need some time alone, and by alone I mean away. Studies have found that when we spend some time by ourselves (Being periods of weeks or months), we increase the quality of our relationships, and that's why in this article I'll talk about the many benefits that taking a time off from your loved ones can bring to your interactions with them, not only creating an increase in quality though in the deep love that every part feels. Let's begin:

Increase in Admiration:

As an example, you can just look at two couples, one that spends every single day together and the other that doesn't see that often. The first thing you might realize is that the members of the latter show much more affection than the first one, this having to do with the fact that they can take a greater amount of time to evaluate the actions of the other person from a positive light without being crowded with the problems of cotidianity. However, there is a downside to this, as It might lead to idealizing your partner, where you sweep under the rug all the negative qualities that you might want to point and discuss with your loved one in order to get the best relationship possible. That said, if you feel like you are a little mad with your loved ones, just take a little break and then reencounter to see If that works.

More things to talk about

You might notice that when old friends see each other again they usually can talk their way into hour long conversations, all because of those experiences that each part has acquired during the time they didn't get into contact. On the contrary, people that know each other and are in contact frequently don't talk for that long, and If they do, It probably won't make for an interesting enough chat. What I'm trying to say is that another one of the positive effects of distance is that It creates enough space and time for you to experiment with new things, meet new people and gather all kinds of beautiful stories to later share with the people you care about.

Evaluating If It's worth It

That's why some relationships in the verge of dissolution use breaks as a last resource. By creating some distance between each part It lets each one analyze what went wrong, who is to blame and how to fix It, or, If they find that they can't make It work, just part ways. However, in separating, they can think more objectively and with a lesser emotional toll about the positive and negative elements of the situation.

I hope that with the information presented in this article you could have gathered some insight as to why distance can create stronger bonds and better relationships for people, making up for not only better conversations though knowing If that person is the right for you. Thank you for your support and good luck!